OMG I probably would have flipped her off but no we have to be cordial which really pisses me off more when I want to rip her head off lol

KILL her with sarcastic kindness bec she cannot keep you from her dang kids bec they are your hubs and YOU are the wife so hmmm so sad for her. Be the biggest hippocrite you can be. Dont try to be in the background and make your presence known. From personal experience, ow never messed w us so she was quiet but deadly. I never stood up to her or made effort to talk and next thing I knew she was f.... My H again like I didn't exist. Needless to say, I wrote her a letter of insults and forgiveness for fxxxx up our lives for a little while. Then she humbly responded w somewhat of an apology. Idc. I just wanted to speak my mind!!! Btw great tat!! Is that you?

Ok then! I'm gonna text her! Now I gotta think of something to say. I'm so glad I have this group to talk to. Yall are like my secret best friends.. my backbone! Hmm...what to text, what to text??

and thanks! That is me. I got that tattoo about 3 years ago. Its something I always tell myself, "Just Breathe" and all will be ok. Its actually my husbands handwriting so that makes it even more special.

I LOVE IT!! Wouldnt work for
Me... My Hs shitty penmanship lmfao!!!! Btw what is BM when u mention the ow?

I refer to her as Baby Mama BM! lol

So the text could go something like this
Hey I'm glad you waved this morning. It's important we show a united front as I care deeply for my H children and want the time I spend with them to be stress free. They need to see that they are loved and the grownups are acting like grown ups

Ands since it appears we are on hospitable terms I'll send pics of activities when they are with us so you can feel secure that they are happy and well cared for when we have them.

Thank you agsin for that olive branch this morning. It truely is a step forward for the dale of the boys.

Dale should read sake

I haven't gotten to the kill her with kindness yet. Last time I spoke to her it went something like this...."If you don't just take your cs and stay the hell outta our life and away from my husband, I will rip your throat out and feed it back to you!" Maybe someday :)

SO I sent her a text..very nice (all lies) anyhow... she text back a smiley face. Then about 30 mins later she text me again saying shes needs money tomorrow for the boys. WTH? 1st of all the amount of CS we will be ordered to pay has not been determined. THat will come this week. 2nd of all, BM won't let me be present during visitation but she has the nerve to ask me for money! WTH???

Wow I can't believe she asked you for money and doesn't even want you around the boys...OW's are some real nasty creatures. I don't even understand where they get the nerve to do what they do.

I would text her back and say once it's finalized in court she will get her money

I politely responded with, Since I am not allowed to be involved with the boys at this time, I believe that goes for all financial issues as well"! Sorry! She didn't say a word back. BITCH

Whoa! You're right! That is some serious nerve! I agree with lilhurt. Let her know once court is finalized, she will get her money, however (in the interest of the kids) I would say "But we would be happy to buy them (school shoes, uniforms, insert item she is claiming she has to pay for) if they need it." That way, the children aren't losing out (which also makes H look good in the eyes of the court, because he is still providing) without handing her any actual money.

So H decided to give her the money in hopes that she will settle with us out of court. We met her today to give her the money and bitch couldn't even look me in the face! She did formally introduce me to to these boys even tho I've seen them before. Ugh...I'm just stuck I think. I don't know to leave or say or what. I go to sleep at night and the last thing I think of is her...and she's the first thing I think of when I wake up. I can't hardly sleep and forget about eating! I now can were the same size jeans as my 14 yr old daughter (size 3)! I really don't know how much longer my body can take this... forgive the rambling!

Hang in there Madre. And no apologies needed for rambling. Venting helps and this isn't the type of thing that we can vent about to just anybody. As hard as it having handed the whore your money, it may end up helping your case in the long run, I hope so. I also hope your body survives all this drama. I'd happily trade overeating for undereating for a little while if we could!