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Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
As I was responding to my last post...the thought of getting closure popped in my head.
Do you feel you have closure from the situation? If you do where did it come from? Did it come from your H? Did you get closure from OW?
I feel like I have no closure and suspect it's because my H just likes to act like "it happened, get over it and forget about it" and OW has shown no remorse or that she even cares about what happened.
How do you get closure?
Do you feel you have closure from the situation? If you do where did it come from? Did it come from your H? Did you get closure from OW?
I feel like I have no closure and suspect it's because my H just likes to act like "it happened, get over it and forget about it" and OW has shown no remorse or that she even cares about what happened.
How do you get closure?
tornforgood
Hurt I truly believe the only closure is total and complete non contact. Or a clean break/ divorce from the offender in our case our H. Life is hard when you live w someone deep down you cant trust :..(
deleted_user
No I don't think there is ever closure. The pain was too deep. Even tho we have moved on, it's still there. Everyday. Only way I see closure is if she fell off the face of the earth.
tornforgood
Ow actually finding someone to keep her on a leash is high up there with closure. That way you know the kid is somewhat managed by a strong hand or father figure (that calms them down and gives them a sense of family. Usually with a man the have less chance of wondering towards your H again...and if they marry omg totl bliss lol. In my case its very shady bec ow is a relatively good human being, she is a hipocrite catholic with a big ass and lives just around the corner, ant to top it... On her letter to me she confessed she loved my H. What does that tell me? Its on him, the cheater, to stay away. Ha.... Whatever. Till this day i have yet to believe he wont or isn't going back to her, the thought poisons my mind. I believe deep down, shes like me and to him its appealing, except she has a past and another babydaddy that make her a deal breaker to stay w her. I think for now Hurt.... Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy bec shes well cared for. Stay positive and send them all to hell. Keep your mind happy and once bb is born it will be blissful madness lol.
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