I must say the ow has apologized to me personally, over the phone and in person and has shared with my husband that she is grateful how we handled the situation. It was early on while she was still pregnant and she realized how much pain she cause our family I had a n 12, 8, 6, and 4 yr old at the time. She also realized this a few years later because one of her office mate's husband got someone pregnant and shared with her the pain she feels on a daily basis and how could someone invade their marriage knowing he was a married man. My "ow" then told her office mate about how she was one of those 'invaders" and felt even more terrible. So I feel she has repented and stays out of our way. Its been 8 yrs now and I must say she doesn't give us mama drama and as soon as she crosses the line with a comment my husband pushes her right back and reminds her, that both of them were wrong. I think its up to the husband to require that respect and let her know that his wife and family come first and if she does anything to jeapardize that, she and the kid can be out of his life...child support only until respect for his wife and family is put in place. They usually straighten up because they realize it only hurts the kid, if she's sensible...My husband learned a lot in counseling so he is now better than ever, but without the counseling we would have been done!

The ow told me in an email that she never meant to cause me any pain or hurt me. She then told me my h manipulated her and she got pregnant on purpose but never wanted my h to leave his family. So, I guess she kinda apologized but not really. I think she probably felt bad b/c she now has a child but I don't think she really was sorry for what she had done.

The ow told me that my H was the one who caused my pain, and that since she didn't know me, she doesn't owe me shit. I expect her to appologize to me at some point. If she doesn't....oh well! It's not like I would think of her any different. Just because my H and I have enough love and strength in our marriage to get through this, doesn't change the fact that she is a homewrecker and a very sick woman.

She apologized to me over the phone too, but I did not accept it...may never. But then again never say never! I know she is sorry...but all I said to her was to save her apologies for my children....she can apologize to them too. We dont get the drama either. In fact shes sent me a few text messages thankng me for loving her child. I dont want her thank you's either. I dont do it for her. But at least shes attempting to keep things peaceful.

I never really got apologized to, but I have been thanks for be so easy to work with and at one point she told my h she wished she would have had the kid with me. I believe she set out to get knocked up and that is way she was with her live*in ex husband, another guy and my h at the same time. It just sucks that this kid is my H...

She gave me a half-ass, pathetic damn excuse. She had to the nerve to tell me that my husband had told her I treated him bad and all this crap. I was like, "come on you're a grown-ass woman, you are old enough to know better. Men will say just about anything to get you to open your legs, and evidently it worked. It's been three years and I still think she is a sorry excuse for a woman and a human being (along with my stbx). My husband lives with her and they are fuckin miserable and that's what they get! lol. Karma.

I also received an apology. The OW told me that if she knew my ex was married to me and not in the middle of a divorce like he told her that she would never have gotten involved. I accepted her apology.. but truthfully.. after getting to know her.. I'm not sure I believe that she didn't know. I suspect that either way she would have gotten involved with him. I choose not to spend too much time thinking about it because the only people who matter now are the children. My ex does not see the OC.. but the OW and I talk about once a week and my daughter gets to see her sister a couple of times a month. We maintain a relationship for our girls.. They are sisters and deserve to know each other..

No I never got an apology she can barely speak english. But I told her we would take care of the child but i would appreciate it if she would leave my husband alone... she just held the phone.... later she asked him if he would give her another child.