yeah it is sad that this can happen and in most cases you can't do anything about it unless you take the law into your own hands and even then they would throw the book at you. it will take some big wig lawyer or judge to go thru what we have in order to have some law passed. there are so many new laws passed for things from child abuse to illegal aliens driving drunk and there is nothing that can be done about our spouses having babies in our marriage which changes our lives and the lives of our children FOREVER! this is a sad day and time to live in.

what's sad is that in the future this will be a normal thing. it has really surprised me that so many people are in my situation. i really thought i was all alone and i was really surprised to see so many right where i am and it really sickens me that there are more and more everyday.

I think it already is a normal thing. It;s so damn common in the world, wel atleast in this messed country of ours that no ones fucken cares. Well I guess they do care because it's all you hear about. sex and violence. I am just so pissed off that there is nothing that we can do about it. Trust me, I have serously thought of taking the law into my own hands, but I have kids of my own and thats the ONLY thing that keeps me from paying a lovely visit to the bitch.
It's going to be a long night for me girls. It's 1:13 am, I have taken my xanax and I am still wide awake. My fault though. I was digging through old phone records, to find out when we had called the police on her (for a well bening check back in dec) and then I seen phone calls that he had been making. I already knew of these calls so they shouldn't have pissed me off and I let my ocd get the best of me I started looked at all the old records of times when he was fucken around with her before I knew any of it. See he had undetailed bills and I didn't think much of it. He said he had to pay for detailed bills, which is true but I never really questioned why. I am so pissed off at myself right now. How could I miss the signs? so very very nieve. Never thought I would be that stupid. Never thought I would stay with a man that did that too me. And the shitty part about that, when he told me, I should have told him right then and there to get out. He didnt beg for forgiveness, nothing. He just said,"I really fucked up." I have been crying my eyes out sice I started looking at those stupid bills. I feel so sick and I feel like going over to the bed and smashing his head in. I just want him to hold me and tell me that he loves me and that it will all work out ok, but he is sleeping and I know its not going to work out.
I'm sorry for being so negative everyone, i just wanted to get these feelings out. I'm sure you all understand.I would pour me a stiff one but I have already taken my meds for the night.
Good night all.

You arent being negative. You are going through the "thin line between love and hate" symptoms. We love them......then we hate them........then we love them...... Cirlcle of insanity. I started my group because I was tired of being angry and sad and angry and scared and angry and dpressed then angry again. I wanted to start getting into the solution and healing becuz I am so tired of hurting so bad. Always worrying, and doubting myself and my husband. Only we know how it is to go through these emotions. I don't think its fair that they get away with this bullshit either. But, right now there is nothing that I can do. I knew that when I took my husband back. I knew there was a huge possibility that she would try to make our lives even more miserable then it already was. But, I want to get up out of all of this misery and shake it off and look her straight in the eyes and say to her without uttering one word, "Ah Hah,Bitch! You didn't do SHIT. I am happy. I am strong. I am living my life and so is my family and MY husband with out your sorry selling your ass self!"

SC-i did the same thing with the cell bills and i have had the same feelings you have, i even asked god "why did you not make this clear to me." as i look back there is not much i notice but there are a few things that i should have picked up on, but honestly for the most part he hid it very well and obviously wasn't with her that much because majority of his time was accounted for(i know they talked on the phone alot). what is really sad for him is that i trusted him wholeheartedly and now i don't trust him at all. he ruined the best thing he ever had in this whole world, my trust.

SD, I wish I could be even half as strong as you are for yourself. I do know for sure that I have the man, she doesnt. But then I also look at it like this also, when I was dealing with all of ours daughters health issues last year, he was with her a lot!Where was my support?

Jae,at the time the I found out, I was at the happiest I had been in years. I felt so at ease with everything in life and at the moment he told me....my whole world crashed.I just dont know what to do and I refuse to sit back and let this whore go on thinking that she is allowed to keep sleeping w/ married men and pop out kids then take all their money and not think about the situation.

SC i totally feel you, i felt like our lives were so stable and we were truly happy and the night i found out about her i was in shock, and when he finally confessed to the kid after lying all night, i felt like he had truly ripped my heart out. after the paternity test came back i was a wreck, you could have sold me for a penny. it amazes me the physical pain that this has caused. i never knew that this could hurt so much. anyway i don't want to cry today, i have faith that my son and i will be okay with or without my husband. and faith is the only thing i have to hold on to.

well the ow has til the 30th of this month to respond to the custody papers we had her served with. Please pray for me and my family that she DOES NOT respond. If she does not, then we can go into court and get anything we want. At this point, we still dont honestly know what we want. We want boys, just not hers. If it was just a regular adoption, it would be different. But we know where and why the kids got here on this earth. I try and remind myself that it is NOT the kids' fault and they did not choose this life or their mom. But if we get them, it will be a slap in my face every waking moment and we will have that stupid bitch in our lives forever and my kids will know and my family will know. My husband and I know we need to sit down and discuss what we want and the if's about it all, but we don't want to talk about it and bring up the past. We want to get on with our lives and fix everything. But how can we do that, if we have to deal with this all the time. It's just a reminder of what happened. Who knows what my day will bring today.

SC-you definately have my prayers and i know exactly how you feel-god bless you and your family!

Thank you jae. The date is getting closer and my anxiety can't handle waiting much more. 8 more days, I really hope she doesn't get her stim check before then. But I have found out that she has not gotten any of the cs that has been garnished out of my H's check yet. So, the only money that she will have for court is any money she can get from her grandma, which wont be much cause her granny is on a fixed income. Not that I dont want this woman to keep her kids, I just want her to stop trying to screw up our lives anymore then she has. She has done enough and she dont care. What's it going to take to get that through her head?

SC, i thought i was a PI, my friend laughs at how much i know about my husbands whore and i am laughing because you even know about her grannys fixed income. LMAO!

I know everything about this whore, even down to what hours she works, where she goes to school and what for, where all of her family lives, any court dates any of them have been to. Oh yeah, I know it all. But keep in mind I met her and all her shitty family at the same time I met my husband 14 years ago. All her family knows me and yet NONE of them bothered to call me or contact me in any way to let me know what was going on and they all knew about it.Nice people huh?

yeah very nice!

yeah very nice!

yeah very nice!