Back in the days of my mother and grandmother when straying husband had outside children, the woman would not be so bold as to come in the face of the husband wife to even think the wife is going to accept her child she had from a woman's husband. She went away, or own with her life and raised her child alone or with what ever man she was now involved in. Now this has no discretion, and it is all up in your face. I imagine sometines, there are a lot of people in the world, and we all start the same way as child, and there are trillion of people who come in the world under these kind of circumstances, the divorce rate is so high now becasue of infedlity
and all these children being born out of adultery. Wives should not have to put up with the drama of another woman and her child she had from her husband but in our society, the court and child support systmes try and make it all about the child, when the truth is IT is really all about the almight dollar. The point I think I am trying to make is, We wives don't have to put up with none of this shit, and should demand it from the other woman who has invaded your life knowing she is with someone husband. We don't have to accept her child and should not feel bad if we don't. I think this is our rigth under these circumstances and it is not that we hate the child but the child is a constant reminder of the ultimate betrayal. and to be forced or made to feel like we have to somehow have maternal feeling for the child is unfair because you have to ask yourseslf, Did this woman give a dam about your children and what she was doing to them, HELL NO, so why I ask, why do we bend over backward to accept what she's done, she should suffer the consequences for what she's done and go on and try and be the best mom she can to her child, unfortunatly she had him/her from a married mand somethng she knew she ougth to have not done, and why the hell do they mess with married men knowing they are not on any birth control, they expect to get pregant and deep down remove you to take the place of the wife. She I say the hell with the other woman who try and then use the child as a pond in your husband life. To continue to cause problems. I think it is up to us wives to drive them out...and away If our husand can't put them in there place, We don't have to put up with absoultely none of there mess.
I do not think of myself as a step mom because my husband was not married to the btch, she is not an ex nothing, and the truth of the matter is ladies, our negative feeling are not so much against the child, It is the btch we have to deal with now. And she need to either get the hell on with her life and stay out of mines as much as possible now, child or no child. What ever man is in her life, can be a father figure to lil Johnnie, but if the biological dad want to be there that is all fine and well too but she will go thru Me for anything that has to deal with my husband and we should not make it all peaches and cream for her, She can get this dam child support and get the hell on like it use to be back in the day, Now at least they get some help for the child back then they got nothing. But don't let society and courts fool you, It is not about the welfare of the child it is all about money because if the laws were fair to men these woman who knowingly have a child from a married man should not be awared full child support payment because she need to get her ass out and work to help supplement that income and should have known betther then to lay her ass up with a married man with a family in the first place. This is a grown ass woman and they knwo what they are doing. These husband need to stop being so dam stupid now, and realize they can't get away with this mess anymore. But back in the day I can only imagine it was not so hard to deal with, because the other woman knew to get out of town. She did not want to deal with the wife, And my husband mistress, I am not putting up with nothing, I mean Nothing. He need to shut her up and Shut her down If he can't I will. Games Over Now. And Ladies, You are in Charge now. and you can deal with this anyway you feel. But I pray that you will all find Peace in your life with this mess we have to deal with, Don't let it consume you and overwhelm your because we did not ask for this either and deserve the up most respect. If your spouse does not inisist upon this other woman respecting you and if he continued to disrepect you. I think it is time to Leave. Because you deserved better. And men know dam well IF it were you who was having another man's baby, they would have been gone. knowing in their mind you gave up your goodies to someone else. Thinking back in the day, all this in your face drama with the o/w was not a problem. They knew to move on with the child if that man chose to cleave to his wife, these affair did not start with the children, they are the result of intentions and carelessness the unexpected happen, so why do we take on a burden that is not even ours