SOBs Significant Others of Borderlines Community Group
Spouses and family members of people who have borderline personality disorder (BPD) are often victims of violent behavior, and frequent physical and emotional abuse . There is typically conflict in the relationship and in the individuals who are committed to maintaining the relationship in the presence of this disorder.
Hey there I just want to know how do you all SOs out there deal with your partners BPD selfish behaviors? While I believe love should be selfless, i'm still human and I do need to feel loved back. I feel that my relationship with my bpd partner is more like a friendship rather then a romantic one, she does not give me or has trouble showing me affection. Intimacy is nonexistent.
Whenever she gets too intoxicated with alcohol and creates a ruckus, she seems unapologetic about her behavior. While i understand she has a lot going on for her and she is aware of the troubles she causes, its like she just doesn't care about the hurt it causes to the people around her....sigh
Whenever she gets too intoxicated with alcohol and creates a ruckus, she seems unapologetic about her behavior. While i understand she has a lot going on for her and she is aware of the troubles she causes, its like she just doesn't care about the hurt it causes to the people around her....sigh
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I need some plot development ideas for a book I'm writing. Here's the lead in:------@1630 she texted me, asking for gas money. "Are u at work? I have to work in a couple hours I don't have any gas barely I was wondering if u had 20$ by chance haven't been able to get any massages in I'm sorry to ask was just seeing"She agreed to meet me at the townhouse @1730. I asked her to call me before...
early on in the relationship with my bp SO, i did a lot of begging and pleading for the behaviors to change.
that didn't work. it only made him feel worse about himself, and make him lash out even more!
while i don't have any personal concrete solutions in these types of situations, i can say that lately i have been putting my foot down when i feel that something is unfair. it's hard, sometimes, to see through the blame and manipulation, especially when you love a person so much and want to believe her/him. but i just have to trust and believe in what you know is right, and walk away from what i see as inappropriate behavior. when walking away isn't an option, i try to stand up for myself. but the anticipation of his reactions can be scary as hell, so i'm still working on that... easier said than done is my own slogan for the week.
It would be far better to focus on the positives in your life than on the negatives in your relationship.