It's a great thing to try to quit together and stay quit. The way I see it (I'm 56) we will all have to quit b/c either we can't afford to smoke or we won't have enough breath to inhale so just quit now and live your life with freedom. Ask your gf if she has children would she want them to smoke? Good luck and you stay strong - it's worth your effort.......

PS - Read the discussion - Wanted to Share - it really puts things into perspective.

I was pretty irritated when I decided to quit and all the people who wanted me to quit started giving me a hard time about how I was acting and feeling. In your case I think there may be something more going on since that is more of a passive agressive behavior. Congrats with the quit keep up the good work.

I second rhonda's emotion, on all counts. Sometimes the people who want you to quit don't really know how horrible it is going to make you feel and act. I think she needs to have enough respect for you to not smoke around you. My fiance still smokes, but I never see him do it, I just smell it and boy, he stinks! Good luck on the quit, I hope it is going really well otherwise!

Yea....someone finally agrees with me!!!!! I am so excited "D

I quit smoking 3 and a half months ago but my husband still chews. (Gross I know) I get pissed because why can he have nicotine, but I can't. (Not that I'm not glad to be a non-smoker now...but wasn't so understanding then)

Congratulations on making a decision that will affect the rest of your life. I too gave up smoking - it has now been 10 weeks. I am using Chantix and believe it is a wonderful drug. I don't miss smoking a bit. I haven't even had any cravings for it - feel like I never smoked. I'm not wheezing when I lay my head down on my pillow anymore and I certainly smell better ~!~!~ I hope you don't mind me saying this but I think your girlfriend isn't much of a friend if she is smoking in front of you. It makes me think if she can be that mean-spirited at a time when you need her, what other horrible things is she capable of and you can tell her I said that. I think you should look for a new girlfriend - someone who will support you, not undermine you.

Thank you all for the input and words of encouragement.

I'm on step two with the gum now!

It is true that many people who want you to quit, will be surprised when you are cranky. Like...duh!!!
Anyhow, also, sometimes people will sabotoge your success, because then, what are they ganna complain about???Also, uif someone wants to quit, but hasnt made the steps to yet, may resent you for doing what they "think"they cannot do. So, theres a few possibilities.

I say get a new girlfriend (j/k)... but that is not a very nice way for her to treat you. Like children, when adults do something to "get to us" we have to pretend it's not getting to us and sometimes even give a consequence to their rude behavior. Example. If she lights up in your presents, just say, "Man, I'm glad I quit, I rally don't want lung cancer. I see you are choosing to smoke today, I hope you feel good about that decision, I'm here to support you no matter what".... She is just playing a game, don't let her win. Worse comes to worse when she lights up go to the bathroom sit and read a book for about 20 mins then comes back like you weren't bothered by it. Hang in there buddy! I hope her attitude towards you changes shortly. You have to be the bigger person here adn remember! You are worth it and you can get through this with or with out her "tricks"

It's ok if you are irritated - even better that you're acknowledging/sharing this with us. It will pass and your friend will quit when she is ready. You may be the inspiration she needs! Unfortunately, as long as there are smokers left, we will be around them. Whether it's the person standing outside when we go to the mall or our closest friends lighting up right in front of us when all we want is to join them. What helps me - is knowing that I can smoke, I just chose not to. And as a non-smoker, I have to make that same choice moment by moment, craving by craving.

You can't control all the triggers that will inevitably come up but you can control what you chose to do in the face of it.

All the best and thanks for sharing because it helps everyone.

Caroline

Hi
I stumbled upon this in another community here. Wanted to share it with you so that you could share it with you g/f. God Bless

http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/health/2007/08/29/choi.uk.smoking.pictures.itn