Your screen name sounds very 'presidential'... LOL.....

I would imagine its harder to quit when you live with a smoker. Its hard for me to give advice on that one. But I would imagine too that if your desire to quit is greater than your desire to smoke, you can do it.... its so much about your attitude and finding distractions. good luck and go for it.....

I too am married to a smoker but since I have quit he does not leave his cigarettes lying around and he only smokes outside the house.

Yes, he did find me a little edgy and grumpy for the first few days but after nearly 37 years of marriage I'm sure it's not the first time - lol.

Seriously, if your husband loves you he will give you all the support you need. Speak to him and explain that you need his help in the first couple of weeks.

After that you will be a sweet smelling, smoke-free wife who will be around for him much longer since quitting smoking.

We are all here for you if you need us.

Quitting is not an event, it's a process. The hardest part of the process occurs generally within the first 2-3 weeks as we detox off of the nicotine and the subsequent thousands (yep, really!) of chemicals related to cigarettes. The truth is that you probably are a bit edgier. Nicotine addiction is perhaps THE SINGLE MOST DIFFICULT ADDICTION TO OVERCOME! Think about it...since smoking is a legal thing to do we are allowed to base our lives around when we can smoke. Get up in the AM and have a smoke. Drink coffee, go outside and smoke. Smoke on the way to work, head outside and fire one up for AM coffee break...then there's the after lunch smoke, mid-afternoon smoke...you get the idea. Perhaps the single most difficult thing to do is to figure out what to do instead of smoking. The best single piece of advice I can give here is to spend time where you normally would have smoked with non-smokers doing non-smoking activities. Also no smoking in the house, car or any other enclosed space that you share with your hubby...appologies to your hubby but that's how it has to be. He has to decide for himself whether or not he WANTS to quit but he does need to respect YOUR quit. There's a ton of advice here as to the physical stuff you can do to help get past craves. I suggest reading Shevie's post on the quitting toolbox, there is very sound advice in that thread. Keep reading, go through old posts here. There is a ton of info to be had. You are an addict as 99.9% of us here are. The idea is to become educated on the nature of addiction because the more you understand the easier it becomes to combat addiction. Check out www.whyquit.com and www.wholistiquit.com both sites offer a wealth of info and tips on how to quit. Come here often, post instead of lighting up. Read our journals, get yourself a group of friends to quit with. This is all about supporting each other through the good times and the tough times. We truly understand what it takes to quit and we all started from day one. Begin writing in your journal, start with all of the reasons you want to quit. Print that list out and keep it with you. Read the list when you feel you have to smoke/are smoking. Write about when you smoke...is it after meals? feeling stressed? driving to work? This will help you identify some major triggers. Again I can't stress enough to you how important it is to read read read our threads here on the community board. Ask questions, relate your own feelings, rant, rave, punch pillows, revel in your day to day and sometimes hour to hour successes. This is perhaps one of the most important things you can ever do for yourself and for those who love you. It's not easy but the initial discomfort of learning to live smoke free is worth the rest of your life being free from the chains of addiction.

Welcome to the group/family there is wonderful support here as you can see!!! I truely owe the success of my quit to the support I found here, I never dealt with a partner smoking however, like dunsmoking there are others here who are or have.....it can be done!!! Best wishes to you!

nice to meet you. i am married to a smoker. my hubby only has a few a day (3-5) while i was having over a pack. he has cut back since i quit and tries to "hide" it from me..haha. as far as someone telling you that you get too bitchy when you try to quit..TELL THEM TO SCREW OFF!!! can you tell im still a little touchy with that statement!! you are going through a LOT of stuff..the physical withdrawl in itself is really intense,,not to mention the months afterwards of trying to find your own way of dealing with life without a smoke to self medicate with. your hubby needs to have this explained to him..lovingly of course,,haha..we dont want to seem too bitchy..maybe have him read some post to educate himself as well on what a smoker goes through when we quit!!! like lanky said..it is a process that can take a long time to overcome 100%. who knows,,maybe it will plant a seed for his own quit if he is ever interested.