Skin Cancer Support Group
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Alright, it's time I come clean, I really try to be supportive and I do see a light at the end of the tunnel(i think) But after my surgery I went in to a nasty depression( still there) They are treating me for Post traumic stress, my surgery was on my face and it has healed well considering but the scarring and the disfigurement has left me, Well less then OKAY. I've found myself basically hiding out in my house. I have lost the desire to socialize, this may be due to the guy I was dating at the time of surgery dumped me after he saw what I looked like, I wasn't serious about him by any means but what he did really screwed me up, what condfidence I had went out the window.
So, if sometimes I sound a little insensitive or hard, I am very sorry. But what I say comes from my reality, which hopefully isn't anyone elses. Remember each of our surgreies are unique and never the same.
SO TO THOSE OF YOU THAT ARE NOT DEALING WELL WITH YOUR SITUATION, PLEASE, PLEASE SEEK OUT HELP.
Your Dr. will tell you things are going well, but he won't be talking about what you are going thru mentally.
Stay strong Deep breathes
This too in time shall pass..( I hope)
So, if sometimes I sound a little insensitive or hard, I am very sorry. But what I say comes from my reality, which hopefully isn't anyone elses. Remember each of our surgreies are unique and never the same.
SO TO THOSE OF YOU THAT ARE NOT DEALING WELL WITH YOUR SITUATION, PLEASE, PLEASE SEEK OUT HELP.
Your Dr. will tell you things are going well, but he won't be talking about what you are going thru mentally.
Stay strong Deep breathes
This too in time shall pass..( I hope)
after my 6 surgeries...I pretty much have accepted the fact that I will ALWAYS be looking for new places...and will get them taken care of....
the depression hit me after awhile too....see my pics of my nose....not as bad as some....but nonetheless.....awful looking to ME !!!
that guy was an aSS !!!!!.....most peeps cant relate to how we feel because they have never HAD cancer !...they dont know the emotions that go with it....
I fight mine sometimes....but deal with it....
a lot of people say... " get over it "..
you know what I say ? to them...
YOU come down with cancer....heaven forbid...and let ME tell YOU to get over it....
people's coping skills are diffferent...some peeps are able to handle. it..some not....nothing wrong in that....
if you are down then seeing a Dr is excellent.....
being told you have cancer...is NO laughing matter.....it f*cks with your head....
I am here for you...under my new name...which you will have soon....
((( HUGS )))
I am so glad you let us know your true feelings and have realized that you do need a lil extra help! I was totally blown away when I found out about my BCC and it wasn't on my face! So many people just don't seen to understand that this type of cancer may be "common" but, It scares the shit out of us and it changes our lives! As far as the guys you were dating...
Sweetie, tell them all to go to HELL!! If they only see outward beauty, they aren't in any way good enough for you!! You've been a wonderful friend and have had so much to deal with yourself!
Hun, I'm here for you any time you need me and please don't hide those feelings from me. I really want to be able to give a little love back to you... you given so much to me and have made such a big difference in how I've 'Gotten" through this so far.
Forever in my prayers,
Peace&Love,
Linda
Love
Judy
I am the person you want around when I'm falling apart. because I can't and won't sit still. I tore out a least 15 feet of hedges today, yesterday I went to my friends and planted all the fruit tree she had just bought 6-7 of them.
If you were to try and hug me when I'm upset I won't let you, because I know I would just fall apart. I grew up in a world where you can't do that and you can't be weak.
I am so gratefull to all of you, and I send you so much love back. You guys helped me and let me be upset , I so much appreicate all your understanding, and support..
You guys are my ROCK...
Diana
I too have had many surgeries: mine is for Superficial Spreading MELANOMA. We all know what the heck you are going through.
My scars are 6-8 inches long, and consist of two mostly on top of each other on my back, one along the under side of my right breast, and one that runs vertically from the top of the same breast down to my nipple. I go in TODAY AT 2:45 to get yet another battle scar for a severely atypical nevus on my abdomen.
WE ARE WARRIORS. Every time you look at that brave face of yours BE PROUD. You are brave, whether you feel it or not!!! Believe it!
Do NOT be embarrassed to go outside: run outside and SHOUT the fact that you are a soldier. If anyone looks at you funny they are just CURIOUS: they are NOT thinking, " Ooh, how weird. How repulsive"... you would not do that, so why do you think they are? A little tough love for you! :) Seriously, I know it is HARD to talk yourself up, but you will be so happy when you do. It is so awesome that you were able to seek help. Turn to your Lord for peace and strenght. Pray for little things at a time. Pray that you have the strenght to go to the mailbox one day. The next week pray that you can walk right through the grocery store with your head held high! Teach everyone that it is NOT about outward appearances. You are stronger than you think!!!
May God be with you today and everyday, sweetie.
We are SURVIVORS, hear us ROAR!!
( I am such a dork.... ) LOL
Sometimes I get pretty moody. I get tired of looking for new spots and now I get to look at the moles also. I feel like it is up to me to find these things. I am the one who found most of them and had the doctor biopsy them.
I am scared to death to find one on my face. I am worried about the fact that new ones keep popping up. I am waiting for biopsy results on two new spots. I just recently had surgery on my back and had a mole removed on the back of my leg. The back was BCC and the leg was mild dysplasic mole (nevus).
Family does not always understand. My husband gets it, thank goodness.
Hugs to everyone !!
Please see my post about "Anyone BCC 5-10 years."
Debbie