Obviously he doesn't care enough about himself to take medication. If he isn't able to love himself enough to do that, then he doesn't have the capability to love anyone else either. That is NOT what you or your children need. Tell him that. You can tell him to get himself medicated and start taking the proper steps that lead to being a good father figure. He can then be someone who is not only safer to be around, but someone deserving of respect. Your kids can respect that, you can respect that.
I admire people who admit to themselves that they have a problem, and do something about it. What is he teaching your children by not attempting to address his flaws? What is he teaching your children by not admitting to his issues or taking steps to address them? Would he want them to grow up and do the things he is or isn't doing? Would he want someone to influence them in that way? Or, would he want his kids to know of a person who was responsible enough to properly take care of their illness? He needs to medicate or stay away. Be a man, a good father figure,,,, or stay away. No one should be around an unstable person, capable or inflicting physical or emotional abuse at any given moment.

I would have to agree with atmosmash - not on medication then no visits.

bi-polar combined with schizophrenia can be a bad combination. i have worked in the mental health field and some schizophrenics who are not medicated can get extremely violent at times and bi-polar cycles can be really bad as well.

your kids safety is the most important thing. if hes abused you, whats going to stop him from hurting your kids ?

I just found out that he is on meds and told me that he doesnt want any problems..

i would ask if he would agree to progress reports from his treating doctor or ask for permission to talk to his dr to ensure the safety of your kids. you wont know he is off his meds right away. it takes awhile for meds to get into the system and it takes awhile before they are out of the system.

schizophrenics tend to take their meds for awhile and once they feel good they take themselves off because they feel they do not need them anymore.

you can always have the visits supervised

he is claiming that he doesn't have schizophrenia now.... I am not a psychologist but I have done papers and a presentation on this disorder plus living with him. I know biopolar ppl dont talk to their dead fathers as if they are in the room and are not paranoid... he is suppose t have supervised visits, I have always told him to go through the courts. I just don't want my kids to get messed up because they didnt get to see their dad..

I think it would be much more harmful if he showed up at their game and wigged out. Since he is ill, you have to protect them. And you know better than to believe everything he says.

How old are the kids?

my kids are 11 and 7, my 7 yr old is not that attached to him..