I will try to sum this up quickly, it could turn into a book if I let it! I have been divorced for 3 years and have shared legal and physical custody with my X. He had an affair and has been living with the other woman since he walked out. I have taken this quite well and have actually encouraged my 4 year old daughter to give her a chance. I have done everything I could do to make this easy on my Daughter. But about a year ago my X has been extrememly secretive and will not allow me to call him on the phone. I must e-mail him. My Daughter has been telling me things that horrify me. She has to let them sleep in every day, she cannot wake them up when she wakes up. She is alone in the house for hours. She sometimes sits at the dinner table for long periods of time until she finishes her plate (Her Grandmother called me about this, she witnessed it on Christmas. She sat there for 1hr 15min. They piled her plate with more than a 4 year old can possibly eat. They also had to wait until almost Noon to open presents because they were sleeping>) The most recent thing was that she got punished for crying that her Grandma was leaving. She also had a story this weekend about her telling her Dad that he hurt her feelings and his reply was "GOOD!". Now, I don't want to jump the gun and start accusing him of things if he is not really doing them so I am arranging a meeting with him to discuss it. My question to you is, do you think I am over reacting? I posted my concerns on another support site and someone accused me of having control issues and told me that I should not think about it and let them Parent the way they want to. That just doesn't sit right with me. What would you do?
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