I have seen them work and seen them not work. It really depends on the two people involved and if they really want it to work. As for who moves and who doesn't, that is a personal decision between the two people involved. It may be easier for one person to pick up and move and it may not be possible for either to move. That is something that I would talk about in the very beginning. It could be a deal breaker. It will not be easy! I was in a long distant relationship and it just did not work out. We are still friends, but it was tough not getting to see each other when we wanted to. We couldn't just go to each others house if we had a rough day. There were many times that I wanted a hug and he was 300 miles away. We were in the same state and did enjoy the time we dated but decided that it wasn't going to work as a relationship. We took turns going to visit each other and even met in the middle to just spend the day with each other. He had children and I do, we both had great jobs neither of us wanted to give up. So in the end we decided to just be friends. I know this really did answer your questions but there are no definite answers. It is all depends on your situation and the other persons situation. Good Luck!

I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives in England and I'm in the US. We built up a strong friendship first, before realizing that we had feelings for each other. We've met three times - me over there once, him here twice. We've been discussing moving options. It's difficult when kids are involved... I won't be able to move there, because my soon-to-be-ex-husband would probably rather see me dead than with another man, so he won't sign papers to allow me to move. Can't blame him - my son is his kid... however he never acts like it. Anyway - off topic a bit, lol.

So... what I know about long distance relationships. Yes, they can work. The problem with the vast majority of LDR is that people tend to be fake, either up front of in the mix of things. They try and be someone they're not, or they try and make the person they're with someone that they're not. Getting lost in someone online is more than just a vacation away from reality. If you really want it to work, you have to work at it like a real, in front of your face relationship. You can't take things for granted and you can't blow off communication.

The most important thing in an LDR is communication. If you don't have a very, very good sense of communication, you're not going to get far. Also, intimacy - as much as I hate to admit it - can become a problem. You can't physically touch each other... but a mutual gratification of knowing you love, want and desire each other is semi important as well. Well... I would never have said that - EVER - in my life... but I'm coming to find out just how important the desire factor is...

Anyway. Who has to move? Well, would you both move for each other if you could? That's a big question. Would you be willing to relocate your life for that person? I would for mine. If I could. I'd drop everything here and be there with him. But I can't. For reasons stated above. But I think it's important that you're willing to be equal with one another - if it's a possibility.

Hope that helped! =)

My answer is pretty simple.. LDR work and some don't, If you want your relationship to move to the next level it would reach a point where one would move, who should move? That's up to the couple.. No rules on dating of any kind. It's like all other relationships, personal and the decisions should be made between the two people involved.. I couldn't do a LTR because I am too needy.. LOL.. But that's just me. Good luck if this is something you're currently dealing with..

I just asked the same question in the healthy relationship group.

Frump, thanks for the words!!

Im guessing it can, but I don't think it'd be for me.

Too true, some work and some don't. I have been away from my fiancee for 3and a half years now. We are still deeply in love etc, and are to reunite later this year. He was deported from NZ, and I have visited him once in that time. It has been a difficult road for us, very trying. I felt like giving up many times, as it seemed easier to get on alone. Good things do come to those who wait, and god know's our path. Good luck with ur quest, and answera that u require, as nothing is impossible.

I have been dating a wonderful man for a year now. We are 4 hours apart and in different states. It is working great for us. Neither of us are ready for the live-in clingy relationship. We are best friends, and have learned a lot about each other by being forced to communicate on the phone. Do we know if it will work? Does anyone ever know? We are just enjoying each other and having fun. As to who will move will depend on when we feel we are ready to make that move. It's a persona choice ofthe couple and one that should be equally weighed out. Good Luck!

I'm in a long distance relationship..he lives in England and I'm in the USA. We've been together for almost 5 years now. We try to see each other every year. Communication is the key word to make it work.

I am in a long distance relationship and very much in love. We communicate daily. He lives in on the east coast and is in the military. I am in Texas. The hard part is knowing that it would take an ACT of God for us to be together. I two have children and my ex husband is an excellent dad and would not agree to let me move my children and because of his committment to the military he can not move to where I am. So for now, I am taking one day at a time and enjoying him. I will see what God does in this situation.