Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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Dixe4me 12/20/2007

Why do you think you are shy? Do you believe it is just hereditary? Do you think it is just your natural character? or Did something happen to make you feel this way?

For me, I think, it was because I never had kids to play with and grow up with. I also was never allowed to go to friends house or have a friend over or talk on the phone. This was very imbarrassing to me because "everyone else was doing it" so at school I stayed to myself because I didn't want to explain to the other kids why i couldn't do simple things that they took for granted. Like using the phone or going to birthday parties or school functions. So I grew up very lonely....except for all the animals we had, needless to say I am an animal lover today :)

deleted_user 03/24/2008

Being shy's primarily down to DNA. There's a long history of it on my Mother's side of the family.

It's not the end of the world, but it does mean that a little extra effort and practice are required to develop social skills.

deleted_user 03/24/2008

Mines not that I haven't had people to grow up with...........I've got two sisters and a brother so I'm quite happy chatting away when I'm at home :)

But I have dyslexia and auditory processing disorder so when I'm round other people I'm scared of saying stuff the wrong way round or miss pronouncing stuff coz I do it all the time, just my family understands. I find its allso really hard to follow conversations in groups so of course I cant say much coz I dont understand whats going on!!! Ah well!

deleted_user 03/24/2008

I think I might be shy because I got picked on a lot in school.

deleted_user 03/25/2008

Im shy because I think too much I think. My Dad was the kind of person who used to always make fun of other people- not in a very mean way, but it was a very important thing atleast in my mind to never ever do or say anything silly. So, overtime, I just became self conscious and so, didnt want to talk or say silly things and never got close to anyone. That and my severe anxiety. Both things together put together made for a very nerve wracking time growing up. I guess thats part of the reason why I am so shy?

deleted_user 03/25/2008

the scars from cutting keep me from wanting to talk to peple becuse the stare at me i like crazy

deleted_user 03/30/2008

For me, shyness runs in my family, so its hereditary. I was kinda shy in groups growing up. But i think its environmental too, like childhood experiences I went through (being bullied for being shy) caused me to became more shy and insecure.

deleted_user 03/31/2008

i'm shy cos i think that if i say anything i'll just sound stupid and people will laugh at me

deleted_user 03/31/2008

I think it's hereditary. I am not a people person. I was teased relentlessly as a kid by kids at school and my siblings. As a result I have anxiety around people. I coped as a kid by playing sports. I had to read books to learn to socialize and my husband helped break me out of some of it. He's my opposite. I fear being weighed and measured by new people.

deleted_user 03/31/2008

i think it all began in pre-kindergarten i didnt know english because i come from a spanish speaking home so i was always by myself and couldnt make friends easily so i think i just got use to being shy. but i've overcome it a little i make friends easily if we share a common interest or if they bring up a conversation that i can relate to but other than that i probably wont be the one to start the conversations because i am too shy.

deleted_user 04/01/2008

because kids were mean to me as I grow up alone and cold no one really cared now this is the prices it coat me $175 every 2 weeks to talk to some one

deleted_user 04/13/2008

mine is due to very low self esteem... i worry about what others think of me

deleted_user 04/14/2008

I believe thats just the way i am but an emotionaly abusive dad made it much worse than i think it would have been I hate being this way even though i know there is nothing wrong with it it i feel like i miss out on a lot of things in life

deleted_user 04/15/2008

I think it's just who I am. I always had friends/kids to play with but I was always the shy/quiet one. I also got picked on because of my weight. I think that made me even more shy. I remember a birthday party when I was very small...all the kids were diving into their cake and I didnt do anything..and it was MY birthday. And with shyness came low self esteem.

deleted_user 04/16/2008

I really dont know why im shy. Ive been pretty quiet since I was BORN. I was so quiet I had to ware a breathing moniter as an infant because I barely even cried. My hole family is loud and outgoing and im just kinda...not:(

deleted_user 04/17/2008

I think I could trace my shyness right back to my early pre-school years. I've always been this way, and have never been able to escape it. Its got worse, and probably contributed to me developing depression. I feel I am improving slowly now though :)

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