Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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TheWhip 07/17/2012

It doesn't matter what situation it is. Every time I have to talk to someone who I don't know or barely know I start to shake. I can't help it. I am starting college for the first time, and I had to return some paper work. I just couldn't help it. I am just so shy. I just want it to be over. It's even over the phone. I had to call customer service today for something and it killed me. I could barely hold the phone. Even though the guy helping me was so nice. I would much rather do something online or solve the problem by myself than have to talk to someone. It's manly why I am always by myself.

Does anyone else have this problem?

rainBowsLoveMe 07/18/2012

I use to. When I was younger, I couldn't even call the people I wanted to talk to on the phone, so I would have my sister do it for me lol Now I mostly get nervous giving speeches and like you, talking to people. I won't introduce myself to people I don't know unless I have someone else with me. But I'm going to take a communications class when I start college this fall, so hopefully it will help.

deleted_user 07/23/2012

I used to have that problem when I was in school and had to give oral presentations. I would actually feel nauseous, sweaty and dizzy. I found it easy to make eye contact with an ally in the class and it made things easier. I soon found out that I wasn't the only person in the class that felt that way and the fear began to dissipate. When did the shaking first start?

TheWhip 07/25/2012

Good luck with your communication class. I do hope it helps, rainBowsLoveMe!

I have always started to shake. IU have been like that for as long as I can remember. I can't help the shaking. If I rehearse what I am going to say in my head it helps a bit with the shaking, but in certain situations you don't get the chance to. Those are probably the toughest for me!

justin7680 07/31/2012

Practice small. Go to the store and say hello to the cashier, or try some small talk with the person cutting your hair the next time you are there. Then work up to saying hello to someone standing in line next to you at the store. Small steps and you will get better. I found it easier to do this with the same gender at first, but that's just me.

deleted_user 08/01/2012

I have a sevear feeling of being afraid to talk to people and what to say. there are times when I am able to say hi to someone. After I say this I dont have any idea what to say after that.
I dont seem to be able to read others body lsnguage of others. I dont know if someone is being nice or if they are trying to flert with me.
I have even had my daughter tell me that this person is flerting with me or that I was flerting with them. One time a girl even gave me her phone number, I didnt realize that she wanted to call me to posibly go out until 3 or 4 months later

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