Shyness Support Group
Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.
Hi! My name is Richeart (Rich-Heart) and this is my first time posting on this site. I have felt shy most of my life and I\'m had some growth ideas that have helped me lately, so I wanted to share.
The first is the focus I see here on other people and their opinions. I came to this shyness site after a year at the Co-depnedency Support Group. Co-dependency is about trying to control other\'s feelings; as in how they will percieve you or feel about you. The entire focus is on others and what they want (from you) instead of what you want for yourself. Co-dependents have a lack of identity...they get their entire identity from their environments and everyone in it. They change constantly in order to please whoever is within their sphere of influence. I think some of the members here may benefit from the knowledge shared there. There are a ton of good books to read, and one I found is "Diagnosing and Treating CO-DEPENDENCE", by Timmen L. Cermak, M.D. It\'s a small paperback and cheap.
The second resource is a book by Elaine Aron, a noted contributor to therapy and introverts, in her book "The Highly Sensitive Person", or HSP\'s as first described by Carl Jung. HSP\'s are more highly attuned to their environment than non-HSP\'s and stay in a constant state of anxiety and arousal. It\'s important to know that chronic anxiety can lead to depression. There is also an HSP group here on Daily Strength (which I\'m also a participant).
One resource that\'s helped me alot recently is a website named "Inner Bonding", it\'s spritually based and run by two therapists. I\'ve found the information helped to \'find my self\', to become more centered on what\'s going on inside me rather than outside.
The final one I have to offer is a small workbook by Harold Liebgold, M.D., found at "Angelnet.com". (This is NOT a spiritual website, even though they use the word \'angel\'; in case spirituality bothers any of you.) His book is "Curing Anxiety, Phobias, Shyness and Compulsive Disorders" for $19.95. This is the best help yet, for me. Considering as a shy person I am (or was) always feeling anxious; my phobias (fears) were about how I needed to "fit-in" and please everyone else but myself; that I\'ve been SHY since I used to hold on to my mother\'s skirt in public when I was a child; and that worrying about shyness and everyone else was an obsessive-compulsive feeling; I decided this book may help, and it has, helped me, that is.
Each of you will have to judge for yourselves if any of these resources can help or if you\'re interested. Check \'em out and see for yourselves.
Anyway, that\'s all I have to offer today. Hope it helps some. Blessings
The first is the focus I see here on other people and their opinions. I came to this shyness site after a year at the Co-depnedency Support Group. Co-dependency is about trying to control other\'s feelings; as in how they will percieve you or feel about you. The entire focus is on others and what they want (from you) instead of what you want for yourself. Co-dependents have a lack of identity...they get their entire identity from their environments and everyone in it. They change constantly in order to please whoever is within their sphere of influence. I think some of the members here may benefit from the knowledge shared there. There are a ton of good books to read, and one I found is "Diagnosing and Treating CO-DEPENDENCE", by Timmen L. Cermak, M.D. It\'s a small paperback and cheap.
The second resource is a book by Elaine Aron, a noted contributor to therapy and introverts, in her book "The Highly Sensitive Person", or HSP\'s as first described by Carl Jung. HSP\'s are more highly attuned to their environment than non-HSP\'s and stay in a constant state of anxiety and arousal. It\'s important to know that chronic anxiety can lead to depression. There is also an HSP group here on Daily Strength (which I\'m also a participant).
One resource that\'s helped me alot recently is a website named "Inner Bonding", it\'s spritually based and run by two therapists. I\'ve found the information helped to \'find my self\', to become more centered on what\'s going on inside me rather than outside.
The final one I have to offer is a small workbook by Harold Liebgold, M.D., found at "Angelnet.com". (This is NOT a spiritual website, even though they use the word \'angel\'; in case spirituality bothers any of you.) His book is "Curing Anxiety, Phobias, Shyness and Compulsive Disorders" for $19.95. This is the best help yet, for me. Considering as a shy person I am (or was) always feeling anxious; my phobias (fears) were about how I needed to "fit-in" and please everyone else but myself; that I\'ve been SHY since I used to hold on to my mother\'s skirt in public when I was a child; and that worrying about shyness and everyone else was an obsessive-compulsive feeling; I decided this book may help, and it has, helped me, that is.
Each of you will have to judge for yourselves if any of these resources can help or if you\'re interested. Check \'em out and see for yourselves.
Anyway, that\'s all I have to offer today. Hope it helps some. Blessings
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"I do not let ANYONE determine how I feel"; and (more especially) "I do not let anyone determine how I feel about myself".
Taking my responsibility for my feelings back from the influences of others has been a blessing. Whatever works!