Shyness Support Group

Shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. The initial cause of shyness can vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

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mas5707 04/25/2010

I noticed over my years of shyness that it's easier to talk to someone while not being face to face. I actually prefer to do it this way too; like emailing someone rather than going into their office. I would even rather email than talk on the phone with someone.
Does anyone else feel this way?

deleted_user 04/25/2010

Yea, it's easier to avoid giving the wrong impression with body language or vocal tone.
Communication is hard.

deleted_user 04/26/2010

i totally agree!

deleted_user 04/26/2010

yess, i agree too. i hate talking on the phone, i get so nervous!, i would rather email someone.

deleted_user 04/26/2010

I agree that it is easier but you still need that face-to-face communication still.

cyn70 04/26/2010

Email is easier, I get to think before I speak. After a while I began to long for a real person, but I know what you mean.

deleted_user 04/26/2010

I feel like that too. I have a very happy and bubbly personality but most people never see this because I get SOOO shy and it sucks. But on the cpu I can express myself freely and it's so easy and I can do it without thinking about it at all. Especially on facebook. I've made so many friends on there b.c I'm so open thru writing. Also b.c I talked to them online it makes it easier when it's face to face.

I think we think about making conversation too much & that's why it's so hard in the first place. What do you think?

deleted_user 04/26/2010

yess, i totally agree with you Leilra. We overthink things that are supposed to happen naturally

deleted_user 04/26/2010

fuuuug... i have to sneak around at night...

deleted_user 05/04/2010

Definitely. I only talk on the phone with my parents and my brother. There's only one person who I text and I talk with everyone else online. Sometimes I have problems making eye contact and I get nervous. People probably notice my awkwardness when they meet me lol.

deleted_user 05/04/2010

i definately think non-face to face is easier.

deleted_user 05/08/2010

I agree with all i have good and bad days i work in a office with 4 other poeple and some days i cope others i really get in a state, i avoid joining in the conversation because of my nervse, i didn;t use to be like this and dont really no what triggered it .

rainBowsLoveMe 05/09/2010

yeh. i noticed for myself its easier to actually be myself non-face to face sometimes then face-to-face. thow sometimes i prefer face-to-face when im with good friends and such. but with writing and stuff they may not always get the meaning of what your trying to say and theres alot of complications with both senarios.

deleted_user 05/16/2010

I totally feel the same way! i can chat with someone online but when there in my face i hardly ever talk! i used to hate talking on the phone but its not that bad. I do enjoy texting its easy. It takes a lot for me to open up in a face-to-face situation, but i still have face-to-face conversations because i feel that its the only way i'll ever be comfortable with it.

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