Well I'm shy, introverted, non-outgoing and 27 and have never been in a relationship, myself. My best friend who is of my own age has not been in one, either. So don't ever think that there's something weird with you.
Look, you need a partner who understands how you are like and what freaks you out. Be friends with your crush and explain your situation, your condition to him. If he is really worth it, he will stay and support you, come what may.
Tell him (or whoever becomes your love interest) not to go directly into kissing first. Maybe start off with warm hugs? Then you both (especially you) will develop a trust, a comfort level with one-another and I'm sure then there will be no problem, after that. Just say to yourself that he loves you and then kissing would not be a problem. The guy needs to understand you. Best of luck, dear!

Melissa, I'm 25, I'm a guy and I'm shy (but I'm working on it). I share my point of view. Shyness for guys is something that stops you before you begin, because the courtship clich requires that it's up to us to make it happen.

Anyway working on your shyness includes also an understanding of which are the triggers of your sudden changing of behavior. It's because he knows your friends? It happens with guys you don't know enough or you know too well ( and can judge )?

I know that when you say shy, you mean scared. But scared of what? Answering this last question will take time, but every time you'll be one step closer to your desires. Hope it helps

I am very shy too, the last steady girl friend I had about ten years ago she didn't understand what is like to be very shy and even though she liked me she broke with me.Talk to your boyfriend maybe you can start with a kiss on your cheeck or your hand, I know this isn't the best advice but if like him it's worth a try.Just so know you I still miss her.

I'm very shy, and I've been there before. I think maybe when the right person comes along that you connect and feel comfortable around will help with the shyness. I think it takes a lot of time and patients. I couldn't eat in public for years. I still find it hard. But baby steps help :)

I'm sorry, but when I read your post I started to cry...I was in a similar situation....I'm 24 and have never had a boyfriend either, nor have I been kissed. I took a chance and decided to meet with a guy I had been talking to online. The first couple of times I saw him we were around people, but the third time we went to his house and he tried to kiss me and I broke down (he didn't force me or anything), he tried to calm me down but I just wanted to go home, so he took me home and I never saw him again.

I felt so alone after that. Like I was the only person in the world who'd freak out over a simple thing like a kiss.

So I just want to thank you for sharing your story, it made me feel not so alone anymore.

I feel like I'm reading a post that I would've written myself haha. I'm in the same exact boat. 21 and have never had a boyfriend. Aside from a few little chicken pecks I've never really kissed anyone either because I'm SO SHY when it comes to that sort of thing. But you know what? There is nothing wrong with you AT ALL. Have you ever heard the quote "A girl worth kissing is not easily kissed" ? it basically means that a guy has to earn your trust and adoration. Once he's earned that then kissing him will be effortless. Don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to :)