Ok I am beyond frustrated with dating. First of all I am struggling to find a good time to tell a man that I have herpes. Do i tell him in the beginning? Or when we date a little longer? or just before we have sex and perhaps make him mad i didn't tell him earlier? but then how would that give him time to like me for me?I have tried each of these time frames to tell the person I'm with that i have herpes and each time has blown up in my face. It just kills me because I am so responsible with my medicine and clean and everything is normal down there completely. My doctor even told me i can have a normal sex life as long as we are careful and I am not having an outbreak. I used to have a bf and we had sex all the time, even unprotected a lot and he never got anything. And after us being broken up for a long time I've tried dating again and it is making me depressed. I feel like Im being shunned away for this std i got due to a forceful horrible event that happened when i was young. Its not just guys that I have a hard time with, my friends talk about herpes and other stds and how it would be horrible to have and how whoever has it must be a hoe and shouldn't try and date. none of them know about my herpes because then they would just be fake to my face about how they really feel about it. I feel like people are so unsympathetic and so undereducated about it. Herpes doesn't kill you. it is just annoying sometimes in my case. Ive tried dating sites for people with herpes and it never worked out and i could never find anyone in my area and everyone was at least 30 years older than me. what should i do? keep trying until i find the right guy who accepts all of me? or should i just stay huddled away from dating all together because of what i have?