Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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brea_01
brea_01

So ever since I made my first post here I thought maybe I'd feel a little bit better knowing that there were other people out here that I could talk to without feeling like I was some sort of pity party or sob story. And it truly has been a huge blessing to have so many people out here to turn to for cheer me ups on nights like tonight! Now, as scary as what happened is, after nearly nine months I have found myself in the most happiest, strongest, and flat out best relationship I have ever been in. He has been the most supporting and loving man to help me through the tough phone calls to the PD where it happened and when I have to fill out the paperwork whether from hospital bills or counseling he always helps. Even though that might've seemed a little random, the point behind that was the fact that I have all the love and support from people I'm still feeling like most days I'm all alone on this. Like no one knows how to help me, what to say or how to say it, or even just a look I get. And now I have to go two weeks without my boyfriend with me 24/7 and quite honestly I'm terrified, like not only am I losing that connection with someone so important, but the fact that it's going to feel like the two weeks will never be over soon enough. Right now is just not the time to lose someone that close, especially with the fact that there is soon to be another status hearing and there is something telling me to go, so I really hope that he will make it back before then so he could join me for the support.

Ozmum62
Ozmum62
You sound scared and vulnerable. Have you been able to talk about this with your boyfriend and come up with some tactics and skills that can help you during this time? Take one day at a time, plan some things you enjoy, be kind to yourself. All the best.
jaynib
jaynib
I am so happy for you that you've found someone so kind, loving and supportive. But try and see this two weeks as an opportunity to build some strength standing on your own two feet, while you know he is still there for you in spirit and will be back before you know it. Please be careful not to put too much into one person because he is human and at times being EVERYTHING to one person can make a person feel overwhelmed. Let him know that you will be okay so he doesn't need to worry. And please lean on others, counselor/therapist, friends, maybe pastor, support group members, so you don't feel that your entire life is one person. Take one day at a time. Your relationship can get stronger from this.
brea_01
brea_01
My boyfriend has gone through a pretty messed up relationship before he met me and I think that's why we were both pretty hesitant to be getting into anything serious. But thank God that we have, he has opened up so much to me before I could even begin to think of a way to tell him what happened. After he was brave enough to tell me what he had been through, I knew that I could trust him enough with the slightest bit of details until just recently where I have now shown him what I've posted thus far. I had told him of possibly starting a job that keeps me busy during the morning hours and then coming home to take care of our dog, then work on school work, and hopefully somewhere in there find some time to unwind with some friends around. It seems after the first two days I have done nothing but cry, write to him, and ATTEMPT to make more friends in this new to me town. I wasn't too worried about only two weeks apart until I realized the fact that I would have no contact with him except for letters and a few phone calls.