Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I was raped 8 years ago in Febury. I went to the police and the guy was cought and is now in jail since the summer of 2001. I had to go through thr trial alone. I had an unical who supported me but he died 3 or 4 monthes of knowing I got raped. 2 family members implied that I was a whore becaus I was dating at the time and had a sexual relaship. What hurts me is that I always gave my mother the address of where I lived and she didn't care what happened to me. She never saked how I was doing or the statius of the trial that was coming up. I have 2 half sisters and heaven forbid this was to happen to them they'd get all the support they need. I have a step-father that I don't get along with and I think she happy that I got raped.(I'm cerying as I write this) I want to confrunt her on this. I feel deep down inside that If I didn't get away from him (the rapiest) when I did that I would of been killed, he out of jail on manslughter chargers and bragerd on how he got away with coldblooded murder and how he raped his niece and got her pregent two times. My mother doesnt know that I could of been killed. What should I do? Tell her? %his is realling hurting me.
I am so sorry you had to go through this alone.
You did the right thing in going to the police.
Have you been to therapy. You are not a whore and you did nothing to deserve this. It is not your fault. You are a victim and a survivor.
HUGS
Unfortutanatly family members find denial find denial alot more acceptable than acceptance.........
Confrontatation may help but only if you are truly ready......... you need to be strong enough with the consequences of the confrontation.............
I am so sorry for all that you have had to go through. Especially that your mother hasn't been concerned about you. When we aren't supported by the one person that brought us into the world that can be more damaging than the abuse/rape itself.
I am not sure if your in therapy or how much you have had but I would suggest doing so and working on yourself and your future.
I don't think you are going to get the results or acceptance you want from your mother. I dont' mean that in a cold way..I just know it too well in my own life. My mother never cared about me and I will never understand that, but I can't and haven't let it hold me back from happiness in my own life!
I know your pain first hand and I will tell you to keep putting energy into this is so damaging to yourself. Please put that energy into healing yourself and moving forward.
I am here if you need someone to talk to!! Big hugs to you !!!!
If talking to your mom is something you believe can help you heal, than I think you should do it. She deserves to know what happened to her daughter and about the man who hurt her.
You're NOT a whore. You're a survivor. I hope this helps, friend. If you ever want someone to talk to, I'm always here.
You'll be in my prayers. BIG hug and lots of love.