Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Really is never ending.

caites13
caites13

When I was 10 my moms "friend"(they had a thing for 16 years but he was married) started to touch me then it grew into more physical stuff. In my late teens I really dealt with this stuff. I stopped blaming myself, the nightmares stopped. I stopped being scared of running into him. But recently, with my therapist, I've been going through my childhood more. So the friends I told when I was in my teens, I don't talk to them anymore. So I told my best friend about this. She was great but I wasn't sure about telling my therapist because I don't want to relive that again. But I do know my unhealthy relationships stem from this and I'm tired of being how I am. So I told her st the end of our sessions so we couldn't talk about it more. I'm just anxious if she'll bring it up more. I don't want to be scared again. I don't want to think about this. I don't want to be made to feel guilty for not pressing charges. Because there's always those people. 


This is never going to end. 

donnawanda
donnawanda
I think in order to heal this you have to talk about it. But the feelings will hopefully diminish as you share and get your therapists support. They should never blame you for any of it, because it was never your fault, and it's too too much for a kid to deal with. You are carrying a heavy burden. My hope for you is that sharing with your therapist and getting their understanding, validation and support will lighten your load and move you closer to the happy, healthy life you deserve.
LuckyEmpath
LuckyEmpath
I am sorry for all that has happened to you. I agree with donnawanda that in order to heal you will need to talk about it and allow yourself to feel all the feelings that are from that time. It was not your fault and pressing charges is an personal decision. I was date raped when I was 24 and I didn't press charges when I could have. There are may personal reasons why each of us decides to press charges or not press charges and neither choice should be judged.

You do deserve to heal and you can heal. Please continue to talk with your therapist about what happened so you can heal. You deserve to live a happy life free from your past.
lostnit
lostnit
I'm sorry you had to go through this. none of it is your fault and I understand how hard it is to press charges. I think it's important to talk to your counselor about it.
irishwriter
irishwriter
I was abused as a child by my older brother and did eventually press charges two years ago but got nowhere, it felt such a relief to do so though. i was raped by my ex husband and i chose not to press charges because i didn't want my kids to visit their father in jail and also i never want my daughter to discover that she is a result of one of those rapes. the best thing and a gift to come out of a horrible event in my life. as luckyempath said there are many reasons to press charges and many reasons not to do so and neither should ever be judged. the most important person here is you so be kind to you and if it comes up again in therapy make sure that your therapist knows you need to take things very slowly. hugs
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