I don't have a problem talking about my abuse...but I do have a problem with men. I think that it is pretty safe to say that I am sexist. I don't like men or trust them and have a hard time being alone in a room with one other than my husband.

I don't think that whether we talk about it or not changes whether one would associate this bad experience with an individual or the entire sex, for me unfortunately I had several abusers and most were male.

We all do whatever we need to do to get on with our lives, its survival...and we need to function. When you are in a place that you feel safe you may feel the desire to speak.

Good Luck to you.

For me it was REALLY hard to begin talking about the abuse. And its no wonder. My father brainwashed me at a very young age saying that if I told anyone that the baby in my mom's stomach would die. So if I talked about the abuse, someone would die. Logically, as an adult, I knew this was hogwash. But the inner child was sure that death would ensue. I'm sure all of us were told that something bad would happen if we told. Being aware of that can be helpful. Reassure you're inner child that you're there for her and you'll protect her. And maybe you can just put a toe in by talking about it here. This is a very safe place to tell your story.

We're here for you. Please be gentle with yourself. (((HUG)))

Talking about your abuse is a big step in the healing process, Have you tried one on one counseling? I have it helped out alot and its okay not 2 talk about it, maybe you're not ready yet, just give yourself some time, and being able 2 heal from it and move on with your life u deserved 2 be happy & your kids!

not talked about it at all i cant really same as you really to hard if i dont say the "R" word it slike it has not happening to me

i have to say i cant be intimate with males no more i can speak to them but cant laugh or joke or anything with them

if there is any advice out there i would not mind knowing the solution aswell

i just posted a similer question.i have pushed it back for years,but now i have to deal with it becase its starting to affect my love life with my husband.i also have a hard time trusting but if a man loves you they will be patient with you

It's so hard to learn to trust again. I can only trust so many people that are in my life.. and it's not many at all.

I do what you do though, I think it is important that you talk about it, keeping it locked in the back of your mind does more damage in the long run, makes it harder to cope with.