First let me say how sorry I am you were abused, it is such a traumatic ordeal for anyone to go through, much less at such a tender age. I feel it is perfectly natural for you to be scared about intimacy,so don't think anything is wrong with you,it probably brings back horrible memories,triggers thoughts and feelings that make you uncomfortable, etc.. My advice would be to take it easy on yourself, don't rush into anything you are not ready for,get some help from a friend or family member, a therapist, somebody who can help you deal with what's happened to you.because if you move ahead too quickly it could very well make it alot worse for you, and you have been through enough without adding more pressure on top.
I hope whoever you are seeing can be patient with you and give you the right to only go as far as you are ready to go, and if your not ready and are getting too pressured from him, maybe you need to rethink seeing someone who cares so little for your feelings as to put his above yours.I wish you all the best, remember to be gentle with yourself,to not blame yourself, and I'm sure someday when YOU are ready love will be waiting, it can happen, even after all you have gone through my dear, never give up that hope,never let your abuser win by taking that from you.Much love, Edith.