This disregard for the sexual abuse of boys, and this attitude that it's healthy and normal for males to want sex all the time with anyone, is pervasive, with terrible results. The most glaring example that comes to my mind is Chris Brown, the singer who physically abused Rihanna. That guy was introduced to sex at the age of 9 and yet doesn't think of himself as a sexual abuse survivor. And look at how he grew up.

I agree with you 100% that this sends completely the wrong message and sets the wrong precedent. Boys absolutely need and deserve to be protected as much as girls.

That's sickening!! it's abuse and she should be in jail like any other pedophile . I had a ex once who lost his virginity to his babysitter. I don't think he realizes he was sexually abused either. Really sad. Just because they are men doesn't mean it wasn't abuse.

If it was an immature guy, and a very mature girl, he would be in prison, label a predator, and not seeing light for minimal of XX yrs...
Turn the table, it's ok, you can't rape a boy... Boys are always the rapist, not the victim... Part of the reason I never told, knew no one would believe me...

These are the same type of ppl who are now claiming that the boy/girl/child love groups should be legal cause they 'protect kids from abusers'.. They also claim it's a 'sexual orientation' just like being gay or lesbian...

Kinda sounds like a person on this site who has this same thinking, and isn't creating victims if he doesn't touch them...


Sorry, my rant...
Maybe I shouldn't had come on here today..

Notalone, please don't apologise, I agree with what you have said completely. This ridiculous view of boys being different to girls, that this kin if thing is damaging to girls and not boys is completely wrong.

The NSPCC in my country is screaming out for this poor boy to be offered the support he needs to cope with what has happened. I think he was very brave to report it and to go to court, the justice system has completely let him down thanks to the archaic views of one (male) judge. I can't help but think this would have been different if the judge had been female. Probably a stereotype assumption on my part, but there it is.

The Laddish attitude Britain has towards Sex makes my blood boil too. When I was 14/15 I had been willing to drink that KoolAid, but by God's Grace I stayed away from becoming a Sex Abuser.

Wow, I am so glad I saw you post. I was sexually abused by our live in nanny from 7-14. My mother knew, because I told her twice. My father regularly had sex with her. My abuse was always the same, backrubs followed up with a handjob. At 14 the nanny wanted me to have sex with her, and for some reason I said no. This was met with being cut off by her physically and emotionally, and she actually never talked to me again except when my parents were there. Hence, as a child, this showed me what sticking up for yourself did, it brought on devastation and a vacuum of loneliness.

How sad that this goes on today. How sick. How terribly sick. The babysitter is an adult and should be prosecuted.

To your point Elslok, how many teachers routinely are now busted for having sex with their underaged students, mostly female teachers, and most of them are given light to no sentences.

How about our clergy, and how they are protected?

Just google "teachers accused of having sex with their students", and you will not have enough time in your life to read about them all.

Sexual abuse of boys by women is somehow excused...and it absolutely should not be.