Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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HELPmemattter143
HELPmemattter143

I haven't been here in a while I was very nervous about the feedback I don't think I could leave her it's my fault she is like this I ruined her life I do deserve this I just need help in making her see that I can be worth more I need to figure out how to get her to love me to forgive me for what I am witch is a product of her rape I don't know how to show her I can be more and that I love her and I'm sorry 

Shai
Shai
first off, you have nothing to be sorry about. it isn't your fault that you were born (or created). your mom needs therapy. someone she can talk to and open up about her issues that she's been through...you should find a psychologist, too.

keep your head up.
LuckyEmpath
LuckyEmpath
It is not your fault your mother is having issues. She experienced a trauma and she needs to heal from it. If she is placing blame for her issues and lack of healing on you then that is wrong. You were not even born so how could her problems be your fault? The blame is on the person who raped her not on the child who was born because of that rape. She is saddling you with a terrible burden that, in my opinion, you shouldn't have even been made aware of in the first place. I do think it was wrong and shameful of her to ever tell you that you were the 'product of her rape'.

If you are an adult then it is up to you to remove the blame she has placed on you and do your own healing. You can move forward on your own as it is not your place to carry her along with you. She is an adult and must take responsibility for her own life and any mistakes she has made along the way. The choice is yours - continue to take the blame for something that was clearly not your fault or move forward on your own and do your own healing.