Oh my God. I am so sorry that this is what happened. I don't know how your family can do this to you on top of everything else. I know it's denial on their part but you are their family and what they have done is so hurtful. It is shameful and I am saddened and furious at the same time. My heart goes out to you Elslok. I believe you - for what it's worth - I believe you. ((Hugs))

I will never understand how a mother cannot believe her child.I have a 12year old who was molested by her cousin,my mother in law (my daughters grandmother) hired a lawyer for my daughters abuser (her grandson) and believes we are making this into a big deal.We have cut her and her husband and daughter out of her lives.Even though the boy admitted to it she chooses to believe it only happened once and was just curiosity.As hard as it is limit your contact with them,they will not change.Find friends who support you.I wish you the best!

It is truly disgusting that those peiple went to such lengths of character assassination to protect the abuser. It is no wonder you feel alone. But at least you know where you stand and who they really are.

I believe you and I recognize how much courage it has taken for you to tell the truth. You are a real heroine for speaking rhe truth in the face of so much nasty and destructive opposition. I honor you for that. You are not alone my friend.

((((hugs))))

You guys are making me cry. Why can't you be my mother, aunts and uncles? At the moment I'm sat crying in the bathroom, my hubby doesn't like seeing me upset so I'm hiding it from him. If it weren't for my children, I know I wouldn't want to be here anymore. I hate this world of innocent until guilty, unless you are the survivor and then it's all guilt all the time. And you have to justify your right to feel abused, fight the victim blaming AND shaming. And the sick f*ck that did it sits pretty and watches the vultures descend, tear strips away from your character, your will, your self esteem until there is nothing left. I honestly don't know if I can do this anymore. I get up each day and I breathe and move, for what? To survive? Why? My family hate me. They must do. But my children...my sweet sweet little prince and my beautiful little monster girls...they keep me here. Because they won't know this world. They will be strong, proud, loved and supported. I don't live for me anymore, I'm sick of me. My whole life is for them.

Oh my god. What the hell is wrong with your family? I'm sorry, everything they said is stupid, awful, and has absolutely no correlation to what happened to you. You don't remember the layout of your grandmothers house and somehow that is equivalent to this????? I'm sorry. Somebody must've really done a fucked up job with their brains because none of that makes ANY sense. I'm so sorry that they are putting you through this. You deserve much better than that, and I wish I was there so I could give you a hug. I know it is really hard to find a reason to live, but I think you are onto something about making your children your reason. Love them and teach them to love. Nobody hates you. Your family is messed up and I don't want you to blame yourself for that. If anything, Remember that. ITS NOT YOU. Sadly their priorities are wrong and they are protecting the wrong person. YOU deserve protection and care and love. I hope you find that here, and with your husband and children. I'm sending you positive vibes. <3333 *hugs* You are not alone.

That's awful. You are so brave to report the abuse and seek justice. Are you in therapy? Maybe a therapist can give you the support that your family should be giving you.

I was in therapy, was discharged as I had had a baby and she felt it was more stressful for me to try to get to sessions than dealing with the pain would be. I've recently been referred again, trying to get an appointment that works with childcare is so hard. I have three under three.

Wow...three children under the age of three? I don't know how you do it.

I hope you find a therapist to help you with your healing very soon.