Your statement is confusing- first off if you are talking about your current guy abusing you while medicated you need to dump him and move on so you are safe. If he abused you once he most likely will again. He he doesn't you cannot fully heal with him.

If you are talking about having issues with a new guy after being abused in the past here is my suggestion. It will take you a while to be completely comfortable with anyone but to start you need to tell him. If he is worth it he will work with you it stop when he needs to. He needs to respect you feelings. I have been married for 4 years and with my husband for years prior. I still have issues occasionally from abuse that happened 20yrs ago by someone who is no longer living. Sometimes I feel dirty, sometimes I cry, sometimes I am overly aggressive (which I then can have issues with rejection). He tries his best to understand, he always supports me and always respects my feelings. We get through my emotions together.

I am sorry that your past is being triggered while you are with your Mr. Amazing. This has happened to me too. I found that as I went through my healing process I was triggered less and less. Are you working with a therapist? If not, you may want to consider it if it is at all possible. A good therapist can help you work through your past and heal it - that way you can go on to have a wonderful life wit your Mr. Amazing.

Take care

I have cried and token down durning being intimate with my husband. He was respectful ad we stopped and he held me. Has only happened 2 times in 10 years so I guess that's to bad. Just explain to your significant other and hopefully they can be patient and helpful