Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Skwerl 04/18/2009

Hello all,

I don't mean to sound selfish or insensitive by posting this here, but does anyone know of any resources available to spouses or family members of SA survivors? A forum of the DS type would be great, but I can't find a thing. Do you think there might be enough interest to start a new group here?

I've been following this group on and off for over a year now, and it never ceases to amaze me how unconditionally supportive and loving everyone is. It also never ceases to amaze me how courageous and strong the memebers here are, whether they realize it or not. You should be really proud of all the work done here.

Thank you in advance.

deleted_user 04/18/2009

I don't know of any sites, but I think that you could probably start one if you have the motivation! I think if you ask the group members of Resurrection After Rape, they might be able to steer you in the right direction. I remember they were talking about starting just such a site not too long ago. Good luck, and please let us know what you find, as most of us have people in our lives that could benefit from a site like this!

deleted_user 04/18/2009

Hi,
no need to apologise as your post is very relevant.
I think its great that you are seeking help for yourself and Im guessing help with understanding and supporting your spouse who has been abused.
I agree that you could start your own group.
If its understanding you want dont be afraid to post in this group and ask questions.
Thanks for saying how couragious and strong we are. Abuse is a terrible thing and it is a battle to get on with life and to be happy.
Anyway, I hope you and your spouse get the support you need, if not here then elsewhere.
If you havent already considered it, you may like to try counselling with a sexual abuse specialist. Not all therapists know a great deal about abuse so thats why I recommend a specialist.
Also, I think the book 'The courage to heal' may be good not just for survivors but their loved ones too.
take care

deleted_user 04/18/2009

I think there is a companion book, The Courage to Heal for Partners. That could be of a great deal of help as well. And as Sonyas said, you are more than welcome to post questions here. I think that most of us would find it refreshing to have someone who cares enough to ask! Counseling is also good advice. Welcome to our group, Wind Climber.

Skwerl 04/18/2009

Thanks for the replies. I would love to find counseling, but I travel for a living and it's kinda difficult.
I would like to say that the book Allies in Healing (I think written by the same author as The Courage to Heal) completely changed my understanding of everything going on and what my wife's going through, and I would even go so far as to say it might have saved our marriage. If you think your spouse or other loved one is having trouble dealing with what you're going through, or doesn't understand it, I'd recommend the book. (Wow, they should pay me for that pitch!)

And if anyone wants or needs a spouses perspective on anything, please just ask. I'm certainly no pro, but we've been working through this for over 5 years now and might have some experience that could be shared.

geordie1 04/19/2009

Hi,
My name is Dave and I started the Supporters of victims of sexual abuse group as I could not get any help myself.
There is a link on my profile page.
It is difficult to be supportive 24/7, 365 days a year,year after year with no support for us.
Feel free to join.
The group has partners of victims and also some victims who are willing to help.

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