Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
As I lay here all I can think about is the abuse I suffered as a child I wish I could put what happen to me behind me but its not that easy, I've got to be up early for work tomorrow but as much as I try to sleep I'm scared to incase I have the nightmares again I just don't know how to cope am I just being stupid as it happen over 19 years should just get over it like my keeps telling me not that she believes me anyway sorry for repeating myself I'm just finding life very hard at the moment I'm on anti depression meds and I have for the last 9 months I just don't feel it's helping me and in some ways I feel worse like I really like people would be better off without me anyway I'm going to bed and see if I can sleep without having the same old nightmare
I think we need to acknowledge the reality of what we feel and accept those feelings as real and justified. It's only when you accept the reality of a problem that the battle to solve it truly begins. Anything less is just a game of denial.
I've had sexual relationships that were pleasurable and emotional bonds with women that were very real, but they sensed that something was off, so they left me.
Once you accept that you have a real problem, you can start taking small steps to change yourself. That's true of any personal problem. I've found that replacing bad experiences with positive ones is the strategy that works for me.
I was very fearful of spiders as a child, but after I learned about them, their amazing abilities, and their importance in the intricate web of life on our planet, I overcame my fear...well, most of it anyway...LOL.
I think it's the same with a bad childhood. We can never erase the damage, but we can reduce the hold it has on us and restore our ability to function. Positive can reduce the importance of the negative.