Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

It's less about what happened than about the way it makes us feel, in my opinion. I hope you can acknowledge your feelings and not minimalise them as overreaction. Hugs
Even if she didn't understand what she was doing to you, its still abuse/assault.
If someone breaks anothers arm, regardless of if they did it intentionally or not, the arm is still broken.
Your feelings are 100% valid.