Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Just wondering about other's experiences with a parent who ignored the warning signs of the abuse and didn't give you the support or protection you needed. I wonder if that parent ever later on realised the error of their ways and took responsibility for their actions?
My mum ignored my sister and I when we told her my dad was making us uncomfortable (the grooming process)
After I had been abused she initially told my dad to stay away (they were already seperated when the abuse happened). Only about 6mths later she was allowing him to come in to the home to see my siblings. It felt to me like all was forgiven and forgotten.
I started acting out with anger and instead of trying to be understanding and supportive she would get angry at me. Even now she can't see the connection between me being an abuse victim and acting out. It got so bad between us that I actually moved in with my abuser dad. He had apologised to me and said he knew about the troubles with my mum and I could live with him.
Years on my mum still doesn't acknowledge the things she did wrong.
Myself and the rest of the family haven't had contact with my dad for years which is why I'm not discussing him.
I think that people have a hard time believing that these kinds of things happen. When I finally raised my voice, I told the closest family members, and they all either said I was lying, or that I had ruined the family by speaking up. One of those people were in law enforcement, and told me that victims tell right away, so I had to be lying. Nice, right?
I am sorry that your mom acted the way she did. Shame on her for not taking your side and for letting that monster around you and your siblings. You deserved so much more.
When I moved in with other family, they knew that bad things happened to me, but told me to move on and didn't get me help. Anytime I tried to talk about it they either blew me off or outright told me they didn't want to hear it. They would rather keep the secret and deny the problems.
I'm struggling with more anger at them than my mom because I guess I expect my mom to treat me like that considering she was always high or drunk. But that's probably not rational.
Thank you for sharing. Sending you healing thoughts.