OK, Forget suicide, NOT an option! Now let's look at what we know. You say that it had been 6 times... OVER HOW LONG (time frame)? Dating?
How did the cops get involved? Your parents are co-operating with the police right? I feel YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY READY FOR THIS, I AM TOLD SO! If you back down...you will regret this forever, because he will do this to someone else, I feel he already has! Don't be scared...BE MAD!!!

Like Rev said, suicide isn't the answer. If you take your own life in order to keep your rapist free from criminal charges, then he wins.

Since your parents have completely betrayed you on this, I'm going to assume that you've been raped by a "close" family member. A brother, possibly? Why do you feel that not pressing charges is in your best interest? If this person has raped you 6 times with no consequences, he's not going to stop.

What's happening to you is wrong. You've done nothing to deserve this. You have the support of law enforcement, and that is HUGE when it comes to this type of crime. It's time for you to stand up to your rapist and take your life back.

I am so sorry for the confusion you r in right now - I agree with reply 1 and 2

The detective must believe there is a very STRONG case, as sex crimes can be very hard to prove legally.

Is there some kind of support or advocacy in your area designed to inform and support survivors in legal cases? I think u would benefit from someone who has knowledge and understanding in these areas and will be there just for YOU, to carry out yr wishes.

I know you are very afraid right now, but suicide is not an option.
I believe pressing charges to be the right path. You were never ready to be raped, but you survived. You need justice. You need freedom. You need to get mad. You need to realise how innocent you are.

You've survived rape, you've survived the betrayal of your family. YOU WILL SURVIVE THIS.

You do need to TRUST yourself and your supporters that this is the right path, because it is.

I understand your feelings about lack of control, your right this is one thing you should have a say in - take back your control and say yes to charges.

take care xxxxx

I agree with the others, its going to be very hard, but you'll get closure.

If you back down now, you may regret it later.
Do you have a therapist?? to help you go through this?

We have all thought about suicide from time to time and at your age it may seem like the only way out. Keep in mind the officier is there to help you and protect others. I know you feel trapped but you are not. Consider how you feel about your life. Is this how you want to feel for many years to come or do you want to feel happy and free of the truama of rape. No matter how you feel abour your rapist or what your relationship is with him, it is not in your best interest to try and protect him. I know you are not ready to deal with the police or this guy, but there will never be a good time to open up. i suspect your rapist is playing with your emotions trying to convince you it is love he is showing you and he cares for you. These are the tatics abusers use to confuse and difocus their victems. Ask yourself is this person really caring about you or your well fare? No he is not. this is your time and no one elses. of course it seems overwhelming but the fact is your parents can't deal with it either. It is not right and that ussally means they know your attacker also and don't know what to do or they are also overwhelmed.

The best thing you can do for yourself is take charge and push ahead with the officer and your life. this is your life and your attacker made his choices. You didn't ask for this and you should not be made to suffer. I think you will be surprised at how relieved you wll be if you open up and push ahead with the police. Your parents can either support you or not that will be their choice but it is not about them or your attacker, it is about what is best for you. you have every right to heal and live a life of happiness. your attacker is in the way of making that happen for you. And you will be protecting other victems or future victems. If he is doing it to you then he is doing with others. don't let this person take anymore of your life. you are too special for that to happen.

stay in touch and be good to yourself. dying only lets him win. so be strong and take charge of your healing and life..

good luck

rich

I was raped the first time at 14, second at 15 and the other four times after I turned 18. The cops were called by a dean at my high school after many reports from other staff at the school about marks/ brusies on my body. The cops have only been involved for the past few months. Its not a family member but a close friend of my parents and I will not give the name to law enforcement. I start therapy in a week (by my choice). I want to be able to feel comforable enough to make the decision on my own about pressing charges and thats why I decided to start therapy but its going to take time and the detective said the investigation starts monday. I feel like it doesnt matter what I want. If charges are filed, my parents will turn against me and I will not be able to turn to my family leaving me completely alone. Im scared and mad about this whole issue. I dont understand why law enforcement wont let me choose. I understand that they only want the bad guy, its their job. But what about me? What about my life? My decisions and wishes? It happened to ME and it ticks me off that I cant deicide what to do about it. This will impact me most, I am the biggest part in this. I feel so hopeless. I am not ready to do an investigation. After its all done, I know I will no longer have my family. I will have almost no one than besides a close friend. I just want choices. I want to be in control for once.

thanks for the advice and talking to me!

good for you. i am glad you are taking charge. You will do well.

rich

I'm so sorry for what you've been through and what you're still going through.

I am absolutely shocked at your parents. Typically, when family keeps abuse quiet, it's because another family member is the perpetrator, and the family is concerned about how people will view them when the abuse comes to light. But this person isn't even family. Your parents are committing the ultimate betrayal, putting their child's rapist ahead of their child. I have to wonder if your parents are putting these ideas in your head about pressing charges not being what's in your best interest.

If you didn't want an investigation, WHY are you talking to cops? It seems you are pretty ignorant as to how the justice system works. Why can the cops press charges without your consent? For the same reason they can press charges against a wife beater without the wife's consent. FOR THE PROTECTION OF THE GENERAL PUBLIC.