I don't see any reason for someone to ask you for graphic details of what was done to you. It really makes me mad that someone asked you for that. I wish there was a standing warning at the top of this page: DO NOT TRUST ANYONE WHO ASKS FOR YOUR CONTACT DETAILS OFF THE SITE! I mean, I do have friends that I communicate with off the site, but it took me months or years to get to know and trust those people.

You don't need a psychiatrist to help you - a therapist, psychologist or social worker who does therapy can be more than enough. I found one who was free by calling the hotline at RAINN.org. Not every place has free therapy available, but there are often low costs options available for survivors.

Meanwhile, if you want sharing and support, I think it's best to stick to the website until you have a longstanding relationship with someone.

I think you should report that "friend" to DS for abuse. However, they will then come back with a different username, so we have to maintain vigilance against this. I wonder if we should automatically tell newbies this: "welcome to DS and beware of those who ask for outside contact info".

If you need and want support you can post here as often as you want.

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donnawanda - You would think I would've known better but the idea of help outweighed the thoughts that someone could be trying to take advantage. I honestly worry about those younger who wouldn't think twice about divulging that information thinking that person is truly there for them. I get extremely sick just recalling what took place and don't want to think about the toll it would take to explain the graphic details to someone.

I won't act like I didn't think about print screening the email along with the username of the person but then thought about the help that person came to this site for as well. I recently read about some getting aroused thinking about their own abuse and got sick thinking that someone could do that hearing about what took away MY innocence. It's one thing to be aroused by your own but I think it's cruel to make someone rehash their own in graphic details just to get off. I don't ever want to be a hindrance of anyone seeking the help they deserve nor want to judge how they deal with their own sexual abuse. I just don't MY childhood torments used. I also wasn't completely certain if I was about to be abused in another way or if it was normal to give up such detailed information. I still have a long way to go in the trust area it seems.

I greatly appreciate the advice and have looked into the website you gave. I will soon be meeting with a local support group so hoping that will offer some relief. Thank you again for the advice and support.

ToneL, you are very kindhearted. I think coming on this site for healing is one thing, but coming on here to get off on other people's abuse is something completely different. I would report that person. If he truly wants healing, it has to start by not trying to exploit others. He has to know that that's wrong and that there will be consequences.

donnawanda -Yeah, kindheartedness is what got me into this to be begin with. I won't be making that mistake again. Would your advice be the same if that person was a female versus male? As far as reporting them, that is..?

Absolutely. Females do not get a pass on exploitative behavior or creepiness.

Same thing happened to me it started out innocent then they started sharing graphic details and asking for mine. They claimed to still be in the abuse but enjoyed it and didn't want help. I stopped talking to them after that.