Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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PeekAhBooGirl
PeekAhBooGirl

I had one other time I was asked on a date. I was talking to a guy in school with me, and we decided to get to together. It didnt work and didn't work. Now we both wanted a little more to happen and when I thought about it I started shaking. I called it off, said I was too screwed up.


Every time I talk to someone about sex, or in school here rape or abuse, or sex... I shiver and shake a bit... I was on my phone on an account and I wanted to talk and me and a guy talked he started getting dirty, I went along with it... I started this shaking that I couldn't stop. I dropped my phone on my face I was shaking so hard. 


Has anything like this ever happened to you? Shaking when you think or talk about sex.


I read all the time, if I read about sex I dont usually shake.. Unless it was more rape like


Am I broken? When my dad sexually abused me did he break me?

donnawanda
donnawanda
You are not broken. You are injured, and you can heal. Please look into therapy!

I didn't shake but when I heard people talk about incest I would burst into tears. I also froze in a sexual situation.
Beatha
Beatha
I know the shaking reaction and I can't control it either. It sometimes was so bad doctors examined me about epilepsy. But my current therapist says it's a body reaction and possibly a release reaction, like crying can be. I don't know, it could be true, though.

Survivors of sexual abuse can easily get triggered in sexual situations. That doesn't mean you're broken, you can heal and free yourself of this. I would also recommend a therapist.
Beatha
Beatha
PS: Wanted to explain why my therapist believes it might be a release reaction: In some situations, my body went limp, in others stiff. Either way I couldn't move. So now, my body is literally shaking off this paralysis.
cwillis495
cwillis495
I get this way too, and wow Beatha, that way of looking at it really helps. Thanks
PeekAhBooGirl
PeekAhBooGirl
I'm geaduating thus year... I still live at home and have no where to go and no money..
Beatha
Beatha
I don't know how this is in your country. Where I live I got in touch with victim's aid and they paid for counseling in the beginning. As I said, I don't know, but there are organizations who might be able to help you and advise you. Reaching out wasn't easy for me, but it was worth it. I hope you can find the help you need and deserve. We're here, hugs.
PeekAhBooGirl
PeekAhBooGirl
U.S. and thank you so much
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