Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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help me please!!!!!!!!!

hlep
hlep
why do i feel like my brother blames me ever since his dad SA me he treats me differnt
i just dont know any more he makes me feel like its my falt
deleted_user
deleted_user
Scenario #1) A boy's hero is his dad. You brought his dad down so that he is not a hero. The boy needs to make it your fault so the dad can still be his hero.
Scenario # 2) The boy has no idea how to treat you now.
My guess would be #1 with a smidge of #2 mixed in. KNOW THAT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! SA within families comes with its own particular brand of pain, one of which is the tearing apart of that family. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know what it is like, though my story is some little different from yours. And once again, I cannot say this enough!!!
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
It is not your fault that this happened to you and it is not your fault your brother is treating you like this.
bratpack
bratpack
maybe he has some hate towards u b/c he is in disbelife that his father did something like that and doesnt know where to direct his angery or emotions b/c maybe his father just hurt u and not him
bratpack
bratpack
iam sorry he is treating u this way though iam here if u need to talk hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is not uncommon for people to blame the victim. I think it is because it is easier to deny things or blame the victim than to deal with the reality of what truly happened. When I began my recovery, I begged my therapist to tell me that I was crazy. I would rather have been certifiable, than to have all of this be true. It seemed like that would be easier to face and deal with the abuse.

Everyone's different and only your brother knows what's going on inside his head. But you are NOT to blame. This is NOT your fault.

Good luck and please be gentle with yourself. (((HUG)))
deleted_user
deleted_user
have you asked him has he been s/a. he is probably scared as you have the courage to talk about it, the reason i am saying this is that i am from a family of five, i have four sisters, im the only boy, and all of us were s/a
deleted_user
deleted_user
no matter what its not your fault..its the abusers fault..dont ever let anyone put the blame on you..steps
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have yet another scenario. The brother was being abused by his dad and he is jealous that his dad became more interested in you, than in him. Is his dad also your dad? How long ago did this happen to you?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your brother may need time to adjust and accept this. It is hard for family members to think that they are able to love someone who does someting as horrid as this. You havent done anything wrong and your brother will come to see that along with how much courage it took to do what you have done. Good Luck