Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Shame

star755
star755
I am so sick of feeling like this, all i want is someone to talk to who will be there for me, when i want to talk about what happen to me growing up, i was sexaully abused from the ages of 10 until 15 by a family friend i thought i could trust but now i just feel the shame and guilt about what that man did to me. All day all i can think is what he did to me. I just was wondering how many people on here feel the same way that i do.
tyzz27
tyzz27
I think you can be assured that if people are not in that place atm hun they have been. This is particularly the case when you first start the healing journey, all you can think about is what those monsters did to us. But it does get better. Sooner or later, usually later the abuse doesnt define us anymore even though it continues to rule our lives. Read books, post/read other posts here and if possible seek professional treatment and do some personal reflection. It is a a combination of these strategies that will take the shame away that you have nothing to be shameful for.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Toxic is pretty much the hallmark of sexual abuse, is not you in their shame.
sadave46
sadave46
It's so sad...what you describe is almost epidemic with so many survivors....taking on the shame of which 100% belongs to the abuser. What happened IS/was shameful but it's not shame you need carry

So many understand it intellectually but on the deeper emotional level continue to feel it. It is something you CAN rid yourself of but it takes work and coming to see what happened with true clarity.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel shame too. Luckily, with the help of counseling and 12-step, the shame has lessened incredibly over the past few years. I know it wasn't my fault, it wasn't my choice, and there wasn't/isn't anything wrong with me. I was put in an impossible situation by an adult, by someone who did have that choice, by someone who did know what they were doing, and by someone who did have something wrong with them.

I hope you find peace from these feelings of shame and guilt.