Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Hi. I'm really new to this and I have a hard time asking for help. I've been in a sexless marriage for quite a long time. I have no plans to leave for a variety of reasons, like many here. But I feel really stifled by not having another person to talk to, like I'm keeping a big secret. I'd love to be able to have a pen pal, an email pen pal that is, just someone I might be able to talk to a bit to feel like I can express myself without judgement.
I am white a guy, late 40's who lives in new york. I hope some other guy might be able to email openly and frankly about what this is like. I need to be abe to just relate with someone else in the same position and not feel embarrassed about talking about what it is like. I'm not real great with opening up about this, but I want to be frank and open and have a bit of help in dealing with this.
Primarily, I want to know- how have YOU handled it? What do you de to deal? What do you think about to make sure you stay sane? My grief is real. So is my sex drive. So maybe just knowing I'm not alone would help. Would anyone be willing to email with me a little? Or is there a chat room you might go to to connect with others? I'm feeling suffocated lately. I need a little help. NO graphic emails but frank ones, talking about it. Anyone here who can help?
For me, it was the feeling that it was not fair or I could not continue to just muddle through. that I could not continue. I had begun to take steps to end our marriage, but in the end continued to stay and endure.
For me, the reason was to not cause more hurt or pain to him since I felt he had his share with health issues (Though I do believe part of it was to keep hold and keep me there.) At any rate, with all said and done, I am glad I was with him til the end.
For you, it is the attributes-- the good mom and wife (well, except in the bedroom-- which should be one of the biggest pros on the list) That is what has kept you there. I have really come to understand that there really is no black and white any more. All sorts of grey area does exist now with so many circumstances and complications. If only we had a handbook... or a magic wand?
I, too, do not want to have an open marriage or cheat. But after so long, I am wondering if there is any avenue for some kind of sexual aspect to my life- any kind of sexual experience, without cheating. I feel so boxed in and sad all the time.
Counseling is good Friends are good but I don't talk about this with the, It is so personal. SO I feel I am carrying a huge secret and can't tell anyone why I am so unhappy and feel so rejected. It has seeped into all aspects of my self esteem.