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I am broken

xntrikwife
xntrikwife

Two days ago I discovered a secret tablet just for viewing porn that my husband has been hiding from me for four years. Four years. It was the night before he left for a week long business trip. I then decided to go through our home computer (something I never do) and found out just how much porn he has been watching. I'm the fun wife that is ok with him watching a little porn. We have a great sex life although I have noticed little changes here and there. I feel like such an idiot. Four years. Ironically people think my husband is my dad because, well, he could be. I take good care of myself, have giant fake boobs and there really isn't anything i wouldn't try if he asked me. I have cried for two straight days. Delighted in the thought of divorce. Felt broken and disgusting. He has already made an appointment for therapy but I don't know if I can ever trust him again. I truly thought we had a great marriage. I want to say the most hurtful things to him right now. 

Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
Please don't think you are at fault for the porn. It is an addiction in my opinion. And especially if it stated when he was younger it's really difficult to break it. The fact that he was hiding it from you does have indications of shame on his part. Also going to therapy is a step in the right direction. I know your hurt but please try to understand and be a part of his recovery from it. Make him accountable and don't let him make excuses. It's easier to stay the course when you have a partner that holds you accountable
To-Be-Clean
To-Be-Clean
Was he hooking up with other women or men and committing adultery? If not I would talk with him about this issue and go to sexual addiction therapy with him. I would try to get him to agree to go at least once a week, He needs to be accountable to someone else and confess if he goes back to it again.
Momof2kids
Momof2kids
Personally I think you are a wonderful wife. Supportive, flexible, encouraging...….you are definitely trying. Do you have someone nearby to confide in? if so, I hope you do. If not, then I encourage you to find someone you trust and can confide in. My best friend's husband confided to her recently he is addicted to child pornography. She is devastated. Counseling is good-I hope he will involve you in the counseling. You are not alone-please post again and let us know how you are doing. We care!!
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