I would suggest deep reflection to see if there is an underlying issue. When do you look forit most? What emotions do you feel? And honestly for me the greatest thing was talking to a therapist. He helped me dig deep into my issues to find what drove me to seek it

First, let me say congrats on opening-up about our porn struggles. Also, it is very hard to admit a weakness that you struggle with, plus you're right, it is hard to trust anyone. What will people think, "pervert" or sick oh, like they have no problems? You know what, every human being has internal issues that play out in their lives. Anyways, pornography should never be allowed on the internet (no justification or excuse) for obvious reasons.

Subsequently, I have been struggling with porn for years and countless men are in the same fight. Besides its not a secret that men and women watch pornography and are addicted. Furthermore, I would encourage you to keep talking about your struggles, thus, it will help you in recovery.

Third, you are correct, it decreases mental health and increases mental distractions and emotional tension.

My suggestions, which I am doing as well, is t keep talking about this and posting online. Start looking for someone to talk with who you can trust. It might take some time but there is another person who can help you. As you already know it is not easy but nothing worthwhile is going to be easy. You and I both have to fight and not allow this sin to control us. And staying off social media, cell phones or mobile devices will help keep porn away from you. If you want to chat more just reply and maybe we can keep chatting about this some more. God bless and don't give up.

Thanks for sharing your struggles. I too have always thought that I am betraying God when I go to porn. I've prayed for strength to resist, but I give in, and feel like a failure at being a Christian every time. The problem was I was really trying to do it alone, so I could then go to God and say "See, I can be good. I am worthy of your forgiveness." But that is not how forgiveness is supposed to work, is it?

There are two things that have helped me this past week. First, I confided in someone I trust (for me, it was my daughter), and asked her to help me install porn filters on all my devices. Only she has the passwords, so I can't easily circumvent them. And second, i have started an online porn addiction help program that includes this and a couple of other sites. It's been difficult to be honest, but that's the only way to truly progress. My prayers are with you. You can do this!

I'm 20 and I started struggling with porn addiction at about the same age as you. (It might have been earlier, even; I can't say I remember exactly, and my memory is probably tainted by wanting to give myself the benefit of the doubt.) On some level I guess I always thought I would sort of grow out of it, but it's only gotten worse. Thanks for posting; it's a reminder to me of just how hard I'll have to struggle.

So glad you came here to reach out!! Shame will never help you heal or get past this...and I always remind myself that Jesus never shamed...he however can help you get through this. First, have you sought out any sort of counseling yet? Sounds like you are at the point of really wanting this OUT of your life and getting that outside help is so vital. As what others have said...you need some support and having someone to hold you accountable is HUGE. I struggle in my early marriage with this and it totally affected my relationship with my hubby. YOU do not have to be a "slave" to this...but it will take being intentional. I have a ton of resources that I'd love to share. One documentary that was really helpful is called "The Heart of Man"...and really digs deep into the shame issue and how that can push you back into a bad cycle. Prayers my friend...

@Firststep, great first step at joining and emptying your pockets, it's relieving huh? I had the similar problem and because I ignored it and thought I could control it, I lied, I suppressed it and was in denial big time. It spiraled down and ended my marriage in divorce. Afterbeing depressed and on anti drpressants, I prayed to God to remove my sexual desire...he did. I was cured. But (and there always is a 'but') then I met someone and went on to be remarried. Oh oh, now what? I prayed to God to renew my sexual desire and he did! Since then, I've not wandered and even though tempted sometimes, I've not gotten into porn anymore. Give it a try, He will honor u!