Sex On The Brain Community Group
A place for those of us with non existent (or dwindling) sex lives to gather. Whether it is to share just how you are feeling or what you miss, or crave or fantasize about (or perhaps have tried with unexpected results?)… I am hoping to find somewhere for those of us fellow "horntoads" to come and chat when we are incredibly lonely and our toys are not enough to keep...
Figuring it's time to be realistic-- No more sex on the brain for me. Not much point as all I do is chat and fantasize of things I may never have. Decided I was allowed to have needs-- but why??? I have gotten braver and bolder and come out of my shell (on here behind the laptop anyway.) I have gotten to know many compassionate (seem to be anyway) sexy men and shared with them-- problem is they are all 85 hundred miles away-- or somebody elses. So I am done hoping once all the dust has cleared that I too may find one (someone special).
I am past 50 and according to many supposed to be past this point and not even NEED to be touched anymore. Nevermind the fact I have missed out on so much and still have alot to offer someone. I started out believing that I was put here simply to care for others and had no life or needs of my own. I did finally reach the point where I was "informed" that I too have a life and should do as I want. So it began. Many years later I would come to believe that I too have wants and needs. (Not so sure about that one though as none of mine do ever seem to get met. My have been better off without any. )
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
I do look forward to my freedom and getting back out on my own... But sadly for me I will be doing it alone as I have had to ALL of my life.
That being said, I still hoped for someone for companionship -- to be able to share and do things with ( good and that naughty stuff too. lol) Probably my frame of mind lately-- but feeling like life is passing me by. Seeing so many with great things coming, feeling like I was crazy to ever expect any to come my way. Maybe I should just stop expecting and looking?
I think I have just been doing exactly what so many of you tell me not to. I look too far ahead-- panic and freeze. Then I watch others flourish and grow as I stagnate . I have spent too much time wasted on thinking about what I missed in my past assuming and predicting I am still not entitled to it in my future.
Living in the moment (concentrating on just now) does help with the steps involved to proceed, but still not so great or much fun.
It is becoming clear that I do need to change ( and redirect my thinking) Stop believing the old tapes that I just must not be good enough or deserve to be happy. I need to continue forward-- one step at a time til I am out of this situation. I will deal with the rest as it comes.
(I think it was rmb that told me to consider those old messages to be like mosquitos and when they come at me just swat em away. Hmm--- on a rough day I could be black and blue! lol) I am coming back out of that blasted hole . (Can somebody please fill that damn thing with concrete so I don't ever sink back in????)
Thank you all for the support. It means so much.
Quote from Eckhart Tolle: “Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”
God Bless