Separation Anxiety Support Group

Separation anxiety disorder (or simply separation anxiety) is a psychological condition in which an individual has excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment, which can occur at all ages and in many situations.

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All alone and no one to talk to

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I'm 29 and I was with my fiance for 5 years, I used to postpone the wedding due to the fact that I suspected that he was cheating, but could not find any hard evidence.
I sort of prepared myself for this day and ended up in hospital for 3 weeks after a second retrenchment and a third one in sight. I am very goal driven but soft hearted.
I found all the evidence one night on his laptop - I stopped at girl number 18 and was devestated. After the break up I heard that he was having an affair for the past 2 months as well.
I lost my job, my fiance, my house, my adoring pets and my heart in 3 months. I tried to build a small company but due to my emotional unstability I couldn't cope. I had no finances and met a guy younger than myself.
He ended up leaving his job and moved in with me, i was pressured to find work and has been looking after him financially for the past six months. This whole experience of working for 2 people really got the best of me - I have settled in my mind to let him go, but everytime I get these anxiety attacks and crying spells when I want to tell him.
I have developed serious stomach ulcers (vomiting blood) and renal implications lately. I have an addictive personality and try hard to stay out of trouble (but it seems to be the only way to get rid of the emotions for a while). I am scared as hell to be alone and I know I don't have a future with this man. I don't have any friends or anyone to talk to. I am just so alone...
Where can I start to turn this all around before it is too late?
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Awakening, how are you? your so young, i feel the pain when i read you message, right now my hearth is broken, but i now and I hope that will be heal.... please let me now how are you, if you want we can be friends, online friends, :) take care princess
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Awakening, sorry you are feeling so anxious. I can relate to the anxiety and the no friends. I have been dealing with abandonment issues since I was a small child. I am a mother of six children and have been married for 20 years. Lately my anxiety levels are really high, the littlest things really bother me. I have had digestive issues for over 2 years due to anxiety. I also have an addictive personality and am addicted to my husband who is not very emotionally supportive. I have recently read a book on healing from abandonment and one of the steps to recovery is for me to spend more time with friends......the problem is, I have been so commited to my family for the last 20 years that I don't have any friends. I know that I have to love myself and fill the hole inside of me by myself, but it does feel very alone. My husband is the only person I can talk to about this, but I really don't think he understands how I feel at all. If you need a friend, so do I. I'm scared as hell to be alone too and I'm hoping it won't come to that, but I know, finally, that I can't change him, I can only change me, I just don't know where to begin. Hoping things have gotten better since your post :)
findinghopenstrength
findinghopenstrength
Awakening; I feel your pain. I have been living with my ex and didn't see any future in the relationship. I found an apartment and could not bring myself up to tell him one day I found out that he has already moved on and is seeing someone else. It brought out all the feelings of love I still have for him and I want him back desperately. I been having anxiety attacks and crying spells all the time it feels almost unbearable and I still havent moved out after paying rent in my apartment for 2 months. I also have an addictive personality so Im having a hard time coping on a healthy way. This is only part of the story. I feel in the middle of a storm with no protection I have no words to describe the sadness in my heart. What I am doing is relying on a spiritual routine and trying to put things in perspective and praying for hope. I am a catholic so I recently reach out to my priest and that is helping.
Even if you are not religious I want to tell you there is something greater than us all out in the Universe. There is a spirit of compassion out there. You are super young and you are valuable. Take little steps in taking care of your health. And plan your exit so that you have a plan to follow. I will pray for you and support you in this forum.