Anyone have inlaws or parents that refuse to acknowledge your child's SPD or autism spectrum disorder? I have a MIL who lives in the same town as us and co-owns a business with my husband. Grandkids are very important to her. She demands that she be given the first option to babysit or becomes upset (a whole other issue). I have had to quit asking her to babysit because she has 10 grandchildren, 6 of whom either live with her (along with their parents) or are over all the time (dumped by their parents). All the chaos and noise stresses my daughter out with her PDD-NOS and SPD. Also, when my MIL can't make them all behave she screams hysterically for them to be quiet. My husband and I don't find this appropriate for either of our children...especially not our daughter with her sensory problems. So, we've gone to a professional counselor (yep, it's that bad) to work it out. My MIL refuses to do things in smaller groups of grandchildren but gets hysterical when I or my husband don't let our children come over. I've tried explaining our daughter's issues, but she tells me that's absurd and that I'm causing our daughter's stress but not letting her come over not that the chaotic loud environment does. My daughter likes her Nana but doesn't like to spend time without my hubby or I present so we can step in when our daughter can't cope anymore. Does anyone else have this issue? If so, how do you handle it? Counseling has been going on for 2 months between MIL, hubby, and me. So far it hasn't been effective to resolve any of the tension.