Senior Health & Aging Support Group

Aging is an important part of all human societies reflecting the biological changes that occur, but also reflecting cultural and societal conventions. There is often considerable social pressure in many societies to sustain denial of the aging process. Join this community to discuss general issues with aging and senior health.

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tikibell1 06/30/2014

I realized as I lay in bed aching from head to toe last night that no matter how much I fight it or ignore it and in my heart don't feel it it has happened anyway! I have been lucky to be in good health but my boss has decided to kill me. She added an hour every night to my schedule and took a day off away giving me only one. I realize she has no choice as we are short handed but she keeps hiring young people who do not want to work and it is dietary so it is hot and busy work so they work a few weeks and quit then I get more hours and sometimes no day off. I am supposed to be part time and work evenings but this week I had 30 hours and it is so hot right now it has gotten to me plus I am a diet aide.We are short 2 people at night so right now I am a diet aide/ dishwasher/busser/gopher and it is wearing me out. The boss well I have not seen her for weeks she is salary so she only comes in long enough to make the schedules and leave rude notes. Never helps with anythin day or night shift. Unfortunately I need this job and it pays better than most as I have no training. I did licsened day care for over 30 years so I could be home with my kids I applied at every daycare they pay 7.50 and hire teenagers.

ROZIA 07/19/2014

hey I am 63 and you are not old

KittyKai 07/19/2014

HEY! I WILL BE 81 YEARS OLD NEXT MONTH! YOU ARE NOT OLD, STOP RUSHING THINGS!

I AM SO SORRY THAT THINGS ARE NOT GOING WELL FOR YOU! YOU HAVE ALOT OF GOOD YEARS LEFT, MAKE GOOD USE OF THEM.

KK

CY52 10/14/2014

And I am almost 63 (January) and you are NOT old.

tikibell1 10/17/2014

I draw my widows pension but still need to work and want to work. Things are looking up the boss is gone finally they are weeding out the people who are not reliable or doing their jobs. I am now only 25 hours a week which is what works for me. feeling much better. The pay I get is not bad as I am not skilled at anything! I did licensed infant care for almost 30 years but the day cares barely pay minimum wage here and I really do not want to that again.

KittyKai 10/18/2014

Widows Pension, whats that?

KK

deleted_user 10/21/2014

I am so sorry for what your job is putting your through. I too was a dietary aid before and they also put several jobs into one. Was forced to quit.

Getting old is so horrible. I am 54 but living with depression and heart problems I feel like I'm in my 70's at least.

Praying for you that work will take some pressure off of you....it just isn't fair :(

tikibell1 11/22/2014

My boss started not showing up she was collecting a salary but hardly doing any work then she showed up because of pressure from upper management. She flipped out cursed everybody said some crazy things and left came back in a few hours and said she did not remember any of it but she resigned. We have a new boss it is hard to tell yet if it will improve as the old one was 2 years behind in paperwork and things were in such a bad way all he is getting done right now is cleaning up her mess.

LucilleM 12/21/2014

We can't deny that as we get older that we no longer have the energy we once had and I think it's okay to admit that. I hear what you are saying. Maybe you can try to get more rest when you are home and on your days off go outside and take some long walks. I find being outside and walking very energizing. Good luck to you.

Lastatthebuffet 04/26/2015

It sounds like you're allowing them to take advantage of you. Are you frightened of losing this job so are scared to say no when they give you more and more to do? You seem to feel you're working twice as hard as the others too.

Remember you'll get no medals for killing yourself for an employer. This happened to me once until I went to the boss when I was on the point of exhaustion. She said it's easy to flog a willing horse!

Slow down a bit :) Who is in charge when the boss isn't there?

Lastatthebuffet 04/26/2015

By the way, she DOES have an alternative to asking you to work extra hours, and that's to do her job properly by hiring decent employees who share the load and work as a team! But that requires better leadership skills than she seems to possess!

It's not your responsibility to carry this hopeless person! Don't let her use you any more.

I realise this is a post from last year but situations like this make my blood boil. I hope you worked it out ok

Lastatthebuffet 04/26/2015

Ha ha thank goodness, I calmed down and read your later post that this idiotic woman left. I hope the new boss is better. But it's a lesson to learn, don't carry the dross, especially when they're in charge of you

rosie44 05/03/2015

Well I am 74. Now that is old

freedom14G 06/22/2015

wow everybody is not rich and sailing off into the sunset many seniors work i wish i could teach again i miss it and it killed my joy to go on disability early had no choice cancer survivor times 2 fifteen years now live it one day at a time

zzztop 08/20/2015

i think it is kind of hard to enjoy your life when you have to slave on a hot job, at 63 not that is old. but working with out any skills trying to pay rent pay bills you get tired.and this women did not mention if she was married. more older women are working today to supplememt their social security so the can eat and pay their bill. No familyi,s like me I only have one sister my daughter died in 2003. Mother , father , brother all dead. So it is hard.to be alone. and also even if you are married you might have a terrible marriage and your older so you stay with the guy. Looks fading, not all that energy we once had. It sucks getting old. then all the health problems start popping up. It is scarey when you are getting older. Some older people have happy familys will help you , have Sunday dinners together make sure their mom and dad come first love them. Have some money and support and confort from their families . It makes life for an older person very nice. they have energy and want to do things take walks.. Just be happy.

KittyKai 08/23/2015

EVERYONE HERE IS COMPLAINING ABOUT BEING OLD! I JUST TURNED 82 AND HAVE ALREADY LOST A DAUGHTER AND A DAUGHTER IN LAW. I LIVE ALONE IN A 3 BEDROOM HOME IN A COMMUNITY FOR PEOPLE 55 AND OLDER. IT IS VERY LONELY HERE, EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN THING GOING. MY KIDS WANT ME TO MOVE CLOSER TO THEM BUT I CANNOT FACE ANOTHER BIG MOVE, IT'S JUST TOO DIFFICULT. I WOUND UP IN THE HOSPITAL WHEN I MOVED HERE! KK

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