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A friend sent me this and I took the quiz. It actually turned out right on the money.
http://www.playbuzz.com/jonb10/what-is-your-achilles-heel
I got:
"The Past Ah, the past. Full of what ifs, stressors and regrets. The past is a double edged sword, full of history to learn from, but sometimes unbearably painful to carry with us. The fantastic thing about the past is just that - it's the past. Letting go of regret, guilt, or grief is always a million times easier said than done, but it CAN be done and it will improve everything from your daily life to your longevity. Accept the past for what it was, let it go and move forward with life! Your future awaits!"
How very true... I have a lot of regrets over the past... 99% of it things that I didn't do, opportunities that I failed to take advantage of. I have very little guilt or grief, just regret. Ah, What might have been but never was... And unfortunately I cannot see any similar opportunities in the future... Life is a lemon and I want my money back... LOL
Many of the regrets I have are about females. Going clear back to High School. I recently had a girl, that I had a super crush her and she had one on me back then, contact me on Facebook. Talking to her brought back all sorts of memories and the realization that I was a dumb ass for not dating her then. But I was to scared of girls to even think of dating her.
It seems like there were a number of females throughout my life that, being stupid, or being to straight laced, or to prudish, I let slip through my fingers and get away.
Do any of you also have past regrets?
http://www.playbuzz.com/jonb10/what-is-your-achilles-heel
I got:
"The Past Ah, the past. Full of what ifs, stressors and regrets. The past is a double edged sword, full of history to learn from, but sometimes unbearably painful to carry with us. The fantastic thing about the past is just that - it's the past. Letting go of regret, guilt, or grief is always a million times easier said than done, but it CAN be done and it will improve everything from your daily life to your longevity. Accept the past for what it was, let it go and move forward with life! Your future awaits!"
How very true... I have a lot of regrets over the past... 99% of it things that I didn't do, opportunities that I failed to take advantage of. I have very little guilt or grief, just regret. Ah, What might have been but never was... And unfortunately I cannot see any similar opportunities in the future... Life is a lemon and I want my money back... LOL
Many of the regrets I have are about females. Going clear back to High School. I recently had a girl, that I had a super crush her and she had one on me back then, contact me on Facebook. Talking to her brought back all sorts of memories and the realization that I was a dumb ass for not dating her then. But I was to scared of girls to even think of dating her.
It seems like there were a number of females throughout my life that, being stupid, or being to straight laced, or to prudish, I let slip through my fingers and get away.
Do any of you also have past regrets?
Most likely the females regret stuff about their men.
And of course we all regret about our children and that too is connected to our mate.
I have regrets about not getting a better education and thereby to get a better job, but that would have been so then I would have had a different choice in females or a better marriage.
Our relationship issues are the only thing truly worthy of our regret. IMO.
I spent most of my first year of life in an orphanage, and came out with what I now know is Reactive Attachment Disorder and a Schizoid personality. Then to make matters worse I was adopted by a very over bearing, controlling, mother who controlled every aspect of my life and made me terrified of girls. My father was pretty much "there" physically, but most of the times I can remember being with him, was when we were working (we lived on a small ranch). He would tell me to do something and then get mad because I didn't do it like he wanted it done (even though he wouldn't tell me how he wanted it done). I got so I was afraid to do anything because I knew I was going to screw it up.
So that is what I have managed to overcome at least partially in the 63 (almost 64) years since. I still have a long way to go unfortunately.
Anyway, I hate living in the past but, I cannot see anything better in the future...