I have been widowed for a year. I also live kind of off-the-grid, not by choice, believe me.  It is totally hard to find anybody, much less a woman around this area to conversate with...and much less get to know very well.  

I hate to be alone, I wasn't designed that way, to be alone. I need the company of a lady, either as friends or intimate.  

Looking at adult dating sites is rather ludicrous, all of them charge a fee, some charge a basic fee PLUS a "message" fee, which as it turns out is a scam.  Every site seems to be just about the same when it comes to prices.  One site leads to another and another, as if they are all with the same company, multiple sites, and each one charges for its use: would be different if you pay for one and get the rest for free.

What do you do when you are destitute and without money? Why waste anywhere between 14.99 a month on up, and then they take it out as a lump sum, which is fine IF you have that lump sum.  They offer "try me" specials though, which I suppose is ok, as long as your message gets through and you get a reply.  In the long run, you can't really tell who is the REAL from the fake, so you end up wasting your money, best used on a bottle of tequila or a pack of cigars...and for me, that's about a 30 minute walk through the forest! lol

Well here are two sites you should stay away from, at first they appear to be legit, they have plenty of profiles with some very attractive women as well as, a very small amount of REAL women. I see it this way: 90% are fake, the rest perhaps are real.  Main way, I discovered to tell the fake ones? Well even the real ones have some saucy profiles, really out there with what they want, mainly hook ups for sex, where they say all sorts of stuff.  You can't tell the fake from the real, going by profiles. The fake ones, well, they are truely hard to discover, because it seems both fake and real will lead-you-on so that you spend your "credits" (1 credit basically = a dollar) just to chat.  See there is a basic free for using the site, then they sell "bundles" of credits, the credit is used PER message, so if you buy the cheapest bundle, you are paying PER message...like around 14.00 bucks for 14 messages. The fakers and some real ones will chat with you, their profiles and original messages are the come-on for a hook up or sex...some include rather pornographic pictures of themselves, which add to the whole thing.  They will want to "get to know you", instead of following what they have said in their message to you, just so you use up your credits and have to buy more.

Now I don't know if the site itself, which is of foreign origin (the Netherlands, or somewhere), is a part of a larger organization or not, but it IS A SCAM SITE. As I said, at least 90% are fake women who lead you on so you pay more money for their credits--"message bundles."

Now one must ask, WHO are these fake women and where do they get these photographs? Well I can tell you, the photographs, even the porn-like ones are really them.  These aren't your ordinary type of women, these are highly educated in the "art of the scam" and know how to get information out of you, without you really knowing you are being sucked for your emotional and psychological information, hell even your financial information (what you do, etc).  They play the part really well. If you have a particular fetish, well then, they will play that part, just for you, so you get sucked into their bullshit.

It is a huge scam. Why and how they get away with it, I don't know. They do say something about "models" and the like, just barely whatever is legally needed to discribe their site.  But who reads all that bullshit and terms, anyway?  I demanded a refund and they basically told me to fuck off.

The name of the site is myhornysnap...they also run mysexysnap and a few others which sometimes you come across and can figure it is one of theirs by having to pay a basic use fee PLUS "message" fees.

The other site is 100% free...it is loaded with attractive women, again I can say 95%, this time are scammers. The site makes you register to use, you make a profile your picture can be pornographic, most are, the scammers, not so much.  You go through the profiles and send them a message, they will reply, as most do, asking if you use some kind of app like Google Hangouts, where you can chat. They might ask you for your gmail, which is used to sign onto Hangouts.

Pretty soon you might even have a few of these women to chat with on Hangouts. They are REALLY good, once again, at sucking info out of you. How is it that these women are really good with the psychological intelligence to ask the just-right questions and then play off of your emotions like they do?

Usually after the introductory shit, they will ask for a picture of you. Why, I'm not sure, you have a damn profile picture they can use. Most times men are stupid, like myself and they send, well, if requested or sometimes "hinted at"---sending a naughty picture. If you ask for one in return, usually it is borderline naughty...you might get one of them in lingerie or even less, but it depends on the scammer.

Most will get to know you, as I said, using your life and the information you oh-so willingly gave them, against you, to sucker you into their web.  And then they will start on some sob story to suck you in even deepr...and then WHAM they ask you for money, for something or other...are they try to trick you with some kind of "deal" or like a couple I was chatting with: "I will come out to meet, but first I have to cash this (---) check, I will even send a picture and information to prove it is real...but first, I need YOU to send me the money and because of (whatever bullshit)...and then I can take care of the check and come out to meet you..." BULLSHIT right out of their demented brains.

When I simply turned one down, she actually told me I was a loser, as if that would hurt my feelings. The bitch outright lied and I AM the loser?  

And no, there is NOBODY to report them too. Oh you can put a scammer alert on their profile, but remember, they use photographs of other women, some are even photos of actresses, but obscure ones not widely known. I SERIOUSLY doubt that the scammer bitches use their own photos...or maybe they aren't women at all, but some dude sitting in front of a monitor in one of those "boiler room" sort of places.  THIS IS NOT JUST INDIVIDUAL WOMEN...they MUST BE organized, there are so many of them at this site. I feel sure that the 100% free site is nothing more than a site to "introduce" you to these scammers, they make it look so damn innocent...while it is just a front for them.  I'm not even sure what country the site originates in, it probably says somewhere but they can fake that one too.

I even looked them up online to see if they were a scam site and what I got was ify at best.

The site is known as nudeweb, so beware of it too. Like I said, there ARE some real people there, you'd have to use your best judgement on figuring out who is scam and who is real.

DON'T USE EITHER ONE of these sites, they are scam sites, ORGANIZED scam sites. Isn't it great, the internet? It actually allows anyomity perfect...of they are anonymous, how do you track them? The last one, it is done so well, you can't really prove anything legal against them...scammer OR site.

The ONLY site I have found is bookofmatches which is totally free but has some odd rules and restrictions about messages and giving your personal "let's meet" info to somebody you would like to meet. I guess they figure it a safe-guard of some kind. And the site is VERY simple as well, not all complicated as the top two.

So lonely guys like me...and lonely women too...since both sites above are for both (but more aimed towards men)...fucking take care and avoid those two sites as if they were a massive STD...