hmmmmmm......okay Booky. Here's my opinion on your opinion and my advise to women who might possibly consider someone like you and your rigid opinions.

That any man that has a closed mind on ANY subject is off limits, there is no use for any woman to seek them, no reason to flirt with them, and do not try to date one, because the man with a closed mind is a sure sign that his heart is closed and he has completely given up on being open to life and all it's different aspects, diversities and personalities.

The man might say otherwise, and they might even go to single groups, and they post online dating sites seeking his "Princess Charming", but women do not be fooled.

The closed mind is the sure sign of winter's cold.

Now that is funny, ha ha ha ha ha ha ha .....

It's sad when people can't use constructive criticism or differing opinions as a springboard for personal growth.

Well, Booky, I'm glad you could see the humor in it. I believe in recycling ......and words can be recycled too. :)

It's just that I am not comfortable with anyone (male or female) who would take an extreme, absolute or all-inclusive attitude toward anything or anyone........especially with something so minor as having a pet cat. That opinion just bespeaks that there are quite possibly some unresolved issues within the person that would cause them to close their mind to any other possibility or explanation of the particular situation.

In your profile, you reference that you "like Gandhi". Somehow, I just don't perceive that Gandhi would have entertained such an absolute attitude. Otherwise, I don't think he would have become the admired and revered icon that he is. ........oh, BTW, I share his birth date.....Oct 2.....and two of my full, given birth names translate as 'grace'.



.....and for you, BobbyJ,...... I'm not quite sure that I fully comprehend your optimism of 'hope' ......unless, that is, you're 'hoping' to remain in an exclusive and restrictive club consisting of other like-minded men that believe all/any women are ___(fill in the blank)____ because they ____(fill in the blank)____

....just my humble opinion ;)

I agree with you in seeing that all-inclusive claim as a sign of defect in me and my position, but this one case might be an exception.

I did say that having kids or to catch the mice is another reason for having a cat, but being just a single woman with cats is just too hard to rationalize except that way.

There are other examples, like there are certain types of dressing or actions that show some one as "Gay", and others like prostitutes have certain ways of identifying them selves. Not all of them but those that do - do. It is very posible that many non-Gay single women that have given up on men might not have a cat, but a single woman with a cat is sending out a real loud and significant and now obvious message.

I would say that it is a kin to being like seeing any man that indulges in pornography is a man that can not be trusted. There might be a few exceptions to that too but very few indeed.


And "BobbyJ" I have actually written a book about codependency (thus Booky) and it is to be published and online soon. And it is not a do-it-yourself publishing because they are going to pay me royalties if anyone buys it. So of course I must write another book because now I will be a published author, and I like the idea of putting some content about the sexes and such, so maybe I will?? but I will not tell others about the cats other then right here since this is only a topic for the group.

"Ditto" to your post Bobby J.
Think Booky is just here to keep the preverbial pot stirred up. To see who can get riled up. He, he, he.

BTW - Booky, think you need to come out of your shell. Bet you are the opposite of what you are telling us here. A little liars poker???

My apologies, BobbyJ. I'm afraid I failed to pick up on the inflection in your post.....even after I reread it a couple of times.

It was my understanding that the topic of Booky's post was "any woman that has a cat" and any other such demeaning and stereotypical type opinions. A closed mind is vastly different from a moral and ethical mind.

Just to clarify, I say it must be a "single woman over 40" having a cat.

A 20 year old tart having a cat means nothing unless there is more to it.

And it can be a positive stereo type depending on our own perception.

I really do know (just friends) many single women over 40 that have cats because I met them at 2 local single groups.

So I do not discriminate in any way except that I quit both groups because I do not want female friends, and I understand the purpose of a single's group is to stop being single, and I go to a single's group at least hoping to end being single.

A woman or many women being happy with a cat is fine by me, but now I know not to date them or to expect any romance from the cat women.

And any single men over 40 driving an expensive sports car does send a message out to society, and that does not make it a negative nor positive equation or stereo type.

And I do not see why either of these would be a closed mind either.

Some can argue that there are 10 in a million that do not fit into the group so it all is not true - not I.

Maybe it is just that between 40-50 is the change of life for women and so the cat is just an outward show of their inward changing.

As to the Mahatme Gandhi, it is mostly only our own Western Countries that see Gandhi as a man of peace, and I say that is based solely on Western propaganda, and the obnoxious Western attempt to mis-use anything to pacify people all over the world.

The Mahatma was not for peace and very seldom did Gandhi even use the word "peace", because Gandhi wanted justice and equity and truth, while Gandhi was very far from any version of pacive.

Peace without justice is no peace at all.

Non-violent resistance and non-cooperation and civil disobediance are concepts very nearly the opposite of peace.

And here in the USA we do not call our's a "caste" system, but it functions very much the same here as elsewhere.

In my opinon and observations.

Booky youare adorable? And so true. I got a cat and do not NEED a man! Shadow died in 2005 and guess what? Now I need a man!
CityGal

OH Booky,
You are so wrong on this one. I have 3 cats 3 dogs, I love my animals. I think it shows that the person has compassion, and a big heart. I would have a farm if I could.

When someone, puts off pets, my first thought is no compassion, selfess, and intolerant.

I grew up with animals, but I do understand when someone hasn't that they might have reservation, but come oncats cold heart, maybe you just feel you can't compete with the unconditional love an animal can give...

Just my thoughts...

Many women have a cat because they want a companion - that does not mean they don't want a man.

Like I said in another post, I got on a kind of blind date (unwillingly, as did she) and we not only found that we were almost a perfect fit - even my dog (a belgian sheepdog, really big) and her cat like each other!

I think the problem is rather that many older women have given up hope of finding a partner or just are no longer interested in sex (my woman tells me that is the case with alot of her friends) - while we older men are still very interested in sex - and not necessarily with a young woman which might be too different and too difficult to "handle".

So if an older woman is still intereted in sex and tries to show this she very probably will find a partner...