Self-Injury Support Group
Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.
My car recently got repossesed and the morning it happened, it felt like my whole life hit rock bottom because I couldn't believe I let my life get to this point. I called my boyfriend and he came over right away. But before that, I just sat at the bottom on my staircase and began cutting myself which I haven't done in a very long time. Even though I knew he was on his way, I just didn't want to feel anything so, I grabbed the razor blade. He didn't know about it until this morning at breakfast when he saw the cuts on my arms. I tried explaining to him why I did it and now he's struggling to understand and most likely is worried, too. I thought I was done with that for good, especially ever since I met him, but right now I just really hate myself. He said that normally he doesn't associate himself with people who hurt themselves and he doesn't like that he's dating someone who does that, but he said he wasn't going to break up with me either. My boyfriend is extremely loving and supportive and I know he's just worried. I'm not sure how to make him understand why I did what I did and how I can reassure him to not have to worry about me.
However, cutting isn't something you need his forgiveness for. If he's making you feel powerless in the relationship, like you aren't worthy but he's willing to overlook this great flaw, don't take it. You aren't "the kind of person who cuts." You're you -- complicated, beautiful, hurting. If he doesn't see that, that's a problem with him, not with you. You don't need someone to graciously overlook your cries for help, you need someone who hears you and jumps to take your hand.
But again... it's an adjustment period for the people who love us. Give him time, but also stay aware. Don't take any BS. You're worth more than you could ever possibly know.