Self-Injury Support Group

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wanting to end things :'(

loz1982
loz1982
my boyfriend dumped me today because of my harming myself, after being together for 4 months. He was the one who wanted to be with me and kept asking me, i told him before we got together about my hurting and cutting myself and he said that it didnt bother him, yet here i am 4 months later, on my own and wanting to really hurt myself. i didnt want him at first but he kept on trying and i fell for him big time. i just dont know what to do anymore :'( i really want to hurt myself but i dont want my 9 yr old son to end up in tears and i dont want him to find out what i do to cope. he has already noticed previous scars. i am so scared of what i may end up doing, as i can feel it building and building :'(
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try not to cut for your 9 year old.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh gosh. That is a tough time you're going through! But please stay strong for yourslef and your 9 year old. You don't want him to pick up on your coping techniques in the future.

There will be other guys who will be interested in you. I'm certain there is someone even better out there who will want to help you get through your tough times. It just takes some time to find that person.

Good luck!
valgal18
valgal18
i'm so sorry that you're going through a difficult time.........make a list of pros and cons.......show yourself that you CAN beat the urge and that you CAN fight this addiction!!!!!!! you'll be able to tell your son in a few years that if you fight you CAN beat things.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Learn to reconize the voice, who it is.... he seeks to destroy you. I was not a cutter, however I would hurt myself other ways when people would hurt me and my first thought was to kill myself. To get back at them or not to feel anymore pain. I have learned who this is.... but it took me along time to understand where this was coming from. I started changing when I saw myself through Christ's eyes. That I was worth everything to him and he would never fail or forsake me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Stay strong for yourself, staying strong for yourself will keep you staying strong for yourself. If you can't take care of you, then you can not take care of him as well as you could be. He loves you and wants you to be safe and happy, just as much as you want him to be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
*Stay strong for yourself, staying strong for yourself will keep you staying strong for you SON.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this difficult time. Personally speaking, I have found relationships cause the most pain/stress for me and tend to be the most triggering things for me went it comes to feeling the urge to hurt myself. I truly believe if someone is worth it and is the one for you then they will take all the bad with the good. I understand you fell hard for this man I am am very sorry he broke your heart. Around the corner will be someone to love and accept you and everything you have been through. Please stay strong for yourself and for your son and know that loving yourself and your son are the most important things. Concentrate on keeping yourself safe for both of your sakes and in doing so you will be focusing your energy on the two of you and hopefully it will put the pain from your relationship in the back of your mind and then eventually, out of your mind.