Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

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there is hope

coexist03
coexist03
I am 22 years old and have not self injured in a little over a year now. Even through tragic life events such as a recent suicide of a family member. I did not self injure. Instead I cried, I spoke my private and somewhat shamefull feelings of guilt openly and got nothing but support. Through this site I have learned healthier coping mechanisims and friendship. I just want everyone who is still struggalong with si to know that trhere is hope you can stop and even when life brings you down again you don't have to go back to si. You guys are so strong and amazing. And I believe every one of you can stop when your ready :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow, what a great post! I'm sorry for your loss of your family member. You haven't self injured in over a year?! Wow, that's awesome!!! I'm starting to realize that I don't know how to cope with life without cutting. And this post really gave me hope. So thank you! :D
*Hugs*
coexist03
coexist03
Trust me there was a time where cutting consumed my life so much I did it when I was bored, like I didn't know how to live without it, it was more than a choping mechanism it was part of my life. But I got away from it I found that talking openly about my feelings was not as scary as I thought. You are strong and one day when your ready you will be able to live a happy life without it. For now be kind to yourself and take baby steps you will get through this :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
wow, that really is brilliant, well done.

i went 4 years without cutting, im hoping to get there again someday, and further.
im so happy for you that you are a strong person who has managed this even with such hard things to cope with.
xxx
coexist03
coexist03
Wow four years? That's amazing! You give me hope :) you can definately get there again. That's amazing :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well done! I stopped for a while but have recently relapsed. However, I think if I realise early enough I can stop it before it gets worse. Sorry to hear about the hard things you went through. What are your tips for different coping mechanisms? xxx Good luck xxx
coexist03
coexist03
First off relapse is very normal I have been there as well. One main thing that helped me was the relization that if I went a long time without cutting and only slipped up once it did not erase the time I had gone without it. As far as Tips for other coping mechanisms. Comming on here, excersise was a big one that helped I would run a few times a week, a good way of venting. I made a bucket list of big and small things I wanted to achieve in my life from things like fishing or hiking to things like going to dif country. Focussing on achieving the smaller things gave me something possitive to focus on. Hmm also this is something I learned on here but self treat instead of self beet. When you want to hurt yourself do something like doing your nails or doing your hair or giving yourself a mini spa that way your distracting yourself keeping your hands busy and doing something possitive for you........... that and learning that it was okay to talk about my feelings and people wouldn't judge me like I feered....... sorry I know this was long there are just so many ways to cope I hope at least one of them you can relate to. Thank you for the well wishes and good luck in this battle you can do it, we can all do it :)