Self-Injury Support Group
Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.
Sorry if this isn't the shortest post in the world...
I am going to start by saying that I don't really understand what the problem is. I like my therapist, and she has given me some suggestions on how not to SI. I have only been seeing her for a few months, but I feel as though I should be improving at least a little bit by this time. But instead it is getting worse.
Before I used to SI with one thing that I just had in the house, and then I went and bought something else that could do a lot more damage. I cut deeper than I meant too, and although I didn't do serious damage, it is worse than it was before.
I understand that in the end I am the one that has to stop SI, but I still feel more alone than I thought I would in therapy. It feels like I deal with it all week and then I see her and report it, we work through it a little bit but no real work is done because there isn't enough time. I am not sure where to go from here. I want to be well, but I am not sure if the problem lies with me, the treatment, or something else. Anyone have any ideas, advice, or really any kind of response?
I am going to start by saying that I don't really understand what the problem is. I like my therapist, and she has given me some suggestions on how not to SI. I have only been seeing her for a few months, but I feel as though I should be improving at least a little bit by this time. But instead it is getting worse.
Before I used to SI with one thing that I just had in the house, and then I went and bought something else that could do a lot more damage. I cut deeper than I meant too, and although I didn't do serious damage, it is worse than it was before.
I understand that in the end I am the one that has to stop SI, but I still feel more alone than I thought I would in therapy. It feels like I deal with it all week and then I see her and report it, we work through it a little bit but no real work is done because there isn't enough time. I am not sure where to go from here. I want to be well, but I am not sure if the problem lies with me, the treatment, or something else. Anyone have any ideas, advice, or really any kind of response?
Also, is your therapist qualified to deal with SI? If so, I would suggest sticking with it because every therapist I have ever been to didn't know how to deal with the deeper issue of SI and told me to draw with a red marker when I wanted to see blood (which I did not find that helpful because it didn't address WHY I wanted to do it in the first place)
Just be patient and reach out for support exactly how you are doing now
Ive been to many different therapists, and find that sometimes you have to be very forward with what works and what doesnt for you. If you feel like the therapy isnt working, dont be afraid to say so. You might be able to work something out with your therapist as to going about it all a different way, whether it is from them pushing you more or just using a different style of therapy.